How long did you give couples counseling before giving up?
Our relationship has been pretty bad for awhile. Pornography, yelling, lies, irresponsible financial decisions, etc. Then last march i got pregnant. My pregnancy was pretty awful. I constantly found him looking at pornography and signing up for dating sites. I even thought about an abortion because I doubted things would get better or that I would want to stay with him forever. I did go through with my pregnancy ( I couldn’t make myself kill my baby, not even to get away). He promised to quit (which he’s done many times- even though I tell him I’ll leave if he does it again.) Things were ok for a few weeks. Then I found out that he’d been looking at porn again 2 weeks after having my baby. He tried to deny it but the computer doesn’t lie. Again he promised to change and again the above list continues. I found that he had forwarded porn from his phone to his e-mail on Jan. 20th and decided to leave. I’ve asked for counseling mant timesand he always promises but then it never happens.
Well this time I came back and he did set it up but he wont follow the counselors suggestions and we are still constantly fighting. We’v eonly had a few sessions but I feel like it doesn’t matter how many we have if he isn’t willing to change. He insists I’m always just looking for a reason to go and I say he just keeps giving me reasons. Should I give it more time or should i count my losses and start packing? I will still have to deal with him for the sake of out 3 month old daughter.
