My husband has been clean and sober for 6 months now. I was ready to leave him 6 months ago, that’s why he went into rehab to start his recovery. He has been working very well on his sobriety by attending meetings, having a sponsor and seeing a counselor. He has also been diagnosed with bipolar in which he does take his medications for. But still, we have issues. He still makes rude comments to me in front of friends and family members. And, we don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things now. He doessn’t seem remorseful for what he has put me through for the past 20 years or how he has treated the kids in the past few. I support him with his sobriety by taking care of our kids alone on my own so that he has time to go to meetings after work. I am a stay at home mom who takes care of all the finances and do what I can to keep his stress down. I even support him on having his hobby of rc truck racing. When I have brought up anything about how I feel, he tells me he can’t deal with any of that now because he isn’t at that step yet. I try to be understanding. But the pain just builds and builds in me because he doesn’t seem sorry nor does he see how rude and disrespectful he can be towards me. I get criticized for everything I do, including my parenting skills. My question is, is this good for the kids to have to continue to witness, me being sad and him being rude to me? How long does it take to see at least an improvement on the behavior? I am not asking for perfection. But a good start would be knowing that he was sorry and cared about our feelings. He doesn’t spend too much time with the kids, either. I am just wondering if I fighting a never ending battle.
Sincerely, Heartbroken

I don’t intend to get a divorce. But my husband is immature when it comes to dealing with his feelings. I understand why and am giving him time to come to grips with his issues. We were attending counseling together but he doesn’t want to go back. Meanwhile, I want to work on my own issues (we both had terrible childhoods). The counselor thinks that I should work on my issues but made the statement that our marriage might have been a mistake because my husband has a hard time dealing with things.
Should I continue seeing this counselor for my own issues? or seek a different one?

My fiance came to me and expressed concerns that he may need anger management. His work history is less than perfect because of his angry outbursts and behavior on the job. He is in the process of finding a new job but now his anger issues are taking place in our home and I do not want the situation to escalate out of control. I agreed to accompany him when he sees a counselor but I want to know what to expect. Sometimes I can express myself better through writing, so would it be a good idea for me to keep a log of his behavior to discuss with the counselor? Has anyone else ever attend couples counseling for something similar to my situation?

I’ve been married for almost 12 years. I’ve never really been content or complete in my marriage. Here’s the scenerio. I’ve always questioned if this was the right place for me, the right man for me. I have made things work because I didnt want to make the wrong choices-didnt want too hurt him because he’s a good man.

Sometimes Im content w/ my marriage and life and other times, Im thinking of what it would or could be like single. I find, most times, I think the latter (what it would be like to be seperated or divorced). Is this normal in marriage? I’ve done this for a long time-probably since the beginning.

I’ve tried talking to him about how I feel but it gets me nowhere. He usually takes everything internally and then deny’s my feelings of wanting to try a trial separation. He always tells me, "you dont want to separate" or "you’re just hormonal again!" Is it me?? Can anyone else relate? Have you or are u going thru this too? Please help! I cant take it anymore
Additionally, I’ve been too counseling and so have we together. We’ve even had a counselor tell us we should divorce!!!! Im so exhausted from feeling this way. I just dont want to throw it all away because of uncertainty.

I want to be a Marriage/ family therapist. counselor.

I’ve played division I intercollegiate sports for 4 years, traveled Europe, wrote my first book and worked with kids and adults in a counselor/leader role almost all my life. Now, I’m looking for a meaningful job with a set salary with benefits. I know that Austin, TX is the place I’d like to live and settle down and the question now possessed before me is what career suits me best. Maybe you as an employer can offer a position or give a suggestion of a company that possess similar goals and qualities that I share.

"His attitude and energy are contagious and he works so hard with such great passion that it can be exhausting just to observe.

Casey is also a conscientious and responsible individual that enables him to be an effective leader. "represents the people he works for with the highest level of professionalism." I feel confident that he will be a tremendous asset to any program and I give him the highest of recommendations."

My BF and I are looking to get into couples counseling to work out somethings before we dive head first into a future together. But just picking a name out of the phone book feels a bit odd.

What are some criterea, besides education and license, should we be looking for?

If you have any insight into this maybe you are a counselor or have been to counseling, would love to hear from you.

I’ve known my husband for about 13 years now, and I love him to death. We are having a lot of difficulties lately to the point that I want to move on with my life. I really want to try marriage counseling, because there is a lack of communication, trust, understanding. I think that with some help, we can save our marriage and be happy together.
Does counseling really help for those who have tried? How much will it cost? Where can I find a good counselor in NJ?

My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 1. We want to see a counselor just to always keep us right. But they are so expensive. We would like to do this at home together and are looking for a good workbook to use. Any ideas? Thanks!

What happened?Well, a family situation took place that sorta caused my husband to clam up and not want to talk about things.Then all of a sudden after 4 years of me working night shift he decides he wants me to quit and stay at home.I made as much as him and didn’t want to give up my job.So for a couple of months we couldn’t agree on anything. We talked with a counselor and she suggested a trial separation along with my best friend(or what I thougt was my best friend)After 3 days of separtion.Husband comes and ask if I want a Divorce – H no is what I said, but he said he felt it best we get one.I was hard headed and told him to knock his self out.He did. My grandma calls Dec 2002 and tells me it’s final she read it in the paper.Since then we are both involved with other people. My husband however is my true love, and I believe I may be his.The past year he has tried avoiding me at all cost, but our children keep telling me he’s not happy as well as his friends. help!