I was just wondering… if you are really good at giving guidance to others… do you need a license to hang a Counselor sign on an office front?

My husband and I are constantly fighting over the same issues, so we decided we should seek outside help to work through our problems, before they get too bad. However, I don’t know anyone who has ever seen one to get recommendations in our area. If you’ve used any sort of counselor before, where’s the best place to start looking for one? Are there any websites that have reviews of for this sort of thing. And we don’t have a lot of extra money, how much does this sort of thing typically cost?

I went online to look for someone to lie and have sex with. Unfortunately I found her. She had been hurt bad before and she was honest with me but I led her on. Even though I knew I never wanted a family I still lied. At that time I never even loved her enough to marry her but I led her along.

I lied to her from the begginning. She cried and begged for me to show her love, have sex with her love her but I was too selfish. In January, she found out that I was looking for other women online. I was saying mean things about her to total strangers. I have had sex with a woman but I have not told her that but she suspects it

Even after finding out the messages online, she set up to see a counselor, I was never honest so she said we just stop. She said I was embarassed by her weight but i denied, it was true. Meanwhile all this time the pain is building in her and in May she kicked me out of the house.

She asked for time but I never respected her. Instead I called everyday and cried and begged. I did not understand why she needed time. I honestly do not know why I was begging her because I am not sure if I love her otherwise I would not have treated herlike I did.

When she filed on Friday, she said I had hurt her so much than anyother man in her life. She is now on antidepressants and going to couselling. She said she had been talking to another man at work and nothing more and she says this is the best for both of us.

Meanwhile all weekend I have been thinking and realise I was a selfish evil man who never deserved her. She was a wonderful woman and so unfortunate that I met her. I cannot see why I should go on begging her to try our marriage because I am not sure if I really love her and if I can keep the promise not to hurt her.

Here is what this divorce has made me realise, at one time I knew how to love ut I got hurt by one girl and vowed to myself that I will never love anyone and I feel now I need to work on that. I dont know where to start and I’m afraid that I might even not be able to love again.

I do think that being away from her is the only way to know if I loved her on not and the only way to fix myself from the burdens I brought from the relationship I got hurt and subsiquently the dishonest and unfaithfulness.

I even gave her herpes and she forgave me. I am angry and cry when I think what I have done to her. She was genuine but I was dishonest from the start. All her dreams will not come to be because of my selfish inconsiderate behavior. At 30 yrs she wanted a kid and a family and now her married is over in just a year.

Please what should I do? How should I deal with this? I am hurting, For the fact that I am losing a phenominal woman, and the fact that I might never know how to love anagin and hurt another woman.

Or should I major in counseling or psychology, and minor in music? I want to be a counselor and music therapist with my own private practice. It this possible?

I have never known anyone that has gone to counseling that has stayed together. I’ve gone a few times in different relationships, and it seemed like the counselor or the counseling pushed us apart.

Now I’m in a marriage that is having problems…we went to counseling before and it failed miserably. The fact that we were going itself caused strain on the relationship. Needless to say that it didn’t work. Now my wife and I are considering it again, but I’m not sure if it is even worth it.

I have been to individual counseling off and on for years. It has worked for me; however I have not seen couples counseling work.

I am scheduling an appt with a counselor and one of my issues is that my fiance smokes pot. We have children in our home. If she will have to report us I won’t bring up the issue. He doesn’t smoke in the home but I suppose he is still stoned when he interacts with the kids.
Thanks Ken – makes a lot of sense.

My wife walked out over two weeks ago, telling me that she does not know if she should be married anymore. I told her that we should see a counselor and she said that she would. Do you think that this is just her trying to accommodate me or is she really wanting to work on it? I am so confused, because we really don’t fight, but we did have a communication problems. I really hope it helps, I really want her home.

My ex-boyfriend and I decided to try couples counseling to try to work things out. Before I get into that, he always told me that I needed god in my life. He would try to get me to go to church but I always refused because mainly I’m not that religious.So, today he finally got a hold of this counseling group and he wanted me pick out a counselor with him. He presents this Christians Counseling brochure of different Christian Counselors. He said this is the only place he could find. What a liar, it pissed me off, he knows that I’m not Christian, not that religious, and I think its a biased approach of thearapy. I told him I would try it,(to see his reaction) then he put down his head and had this smirk on his face, thats what set me off. I felt he was trying to trap me into a Christians approach to life and he did that on purpose. I’m still upset but I feel bad about not giving it a chance and in a way I feel I should stand my ground and not give in to this point of view. Am I wrong?

I have a friend who is considering working with HIV populations as a counselor, advocate or an educator. She has a Masters in Education, and Divinity. She has a background simular to mine. (We both have a Masters in Divinity and Education) She has also recently discovered that she has HIV as a result of her husbands extra marital affairs.

She is really an awesome person as well as an awesome minister. I think that her unique background and experience would be an asset to that particular career.

QUESTION FOR YOU:

Do you all have any suggestions of organizations that she could explore or do you know of anyone who is hiring for that kind of job. (She really would like to make HIV HER NEW CAREER FIELD; coupled with her ministry background I think she can be a help to a lot of people.)

I have my 4 year honors degree in Cultural Anthropology. What other degrees would I need in order to be a counselor in Canada.
Can anyone recommend schools, or online programs. Thanks you!