the mother didn’t want to be tied down so they broke it off and They agree child will live with the father. The father is going for full custody. but one day the mother came with the cops, the father showed the court papers[it is not final yet that he has full custody until december] but the cops still gave the child to the mother. So my other question also is …. Is she allowed to do that?? Is it legally right??

i need serious help just don’t know where to start!
im trying to get out of danger i dont need ridiculous answers

im married now for 6 months my husband is controlling abusive mentally physically verbally im pregnant and scared for my baby’s life i cry a lot cause we fight and its just bad. hes put his hands on me a lot of times i havent called the cops cause im scared but now im fed up w it and tired he keeps me from doing a lot of things like spending time w my mom my family and i are very close he says that i have duties adn responsibilities we live far from home and visit once in a while and the time that we do we stay at his moms house i dont mind but i want to see my family w out him sometimes cause i mean what is he gana do w a bunch of girls wanting to spend time and get their nails r something done? i feel like hes suffocating me i feel like an object hes manipulative and plays the roll of the husband trying to change the day my baby kicked for the first time i got slapped in the face and pushed and fell to the floor i have a rug burn
i wnt to know how a lawyer will help me?
where do i start looking?
if i leave our place and go w my family will it affect me while filing for divorce or child custody?
hes a marine should i be scared of going to court and fear that the judge will be on his side?
if i have proof of this on text msgs and pics do i have a chance ?
all i want is full custody of my child for the baby’s own safety and supervised visitation and child support.
i dont need anything materialistic out of this i just want to be safe!

I am about to file for divorce & NEED to prove my husband is an alcoholic & will put our 3-year-old’s safety at risk. I know most judges will rule the alcoholic can’t drive the child or have him overnight, but I have no proof that my husband is a drunk!
He drinks at his home & doesn’t drive much. He hides vodka in his laptop bag so he can drink at work, but hasn’t been caught yet. Strangely enough, he is a brilliant IT director & very respected!
I know for a fact that he drink around the clock because he has physical withdrawals if he goes without alcohol one day. He physically can’t avoid alcohol in order to have visitation since he gets violently ill, so I know he’ll drink while caring for my son (even if the jugde orders him not to).
Since he has no DUI offenses & hasn’t lost jobs due to driking, what else can I do to prove he is an alcoholic & that he will put our son’s safety in danger?
BTW, he has driven my son while drunk…I just don’t have evidence to show the court.
I’ve thought of calling the cops when he leaves here drunk, but I doubt they will locate him while he’s on the road. They’d have to respond within seconds to catch him driving away.
I’ve also considered hiring a private investigator to track him & get proof, but doubt I can afford it.
Wow, there are some very angry people attacking me! He wasn’t an alcoholic when I met him 10 years ago. The drinking has become a problem the last 2 years.
The reason I am divorcing him is so MY SON won’t have to suffer life with his alcoholic father in the home. I also can’t stop my husband from driving him while drunk!
How dare anyone say I’m the one who is hurting my child. Divorce is incredibly painful for all of us, but in the end I have to protect my child!

I was robbed a few weeks back and I let my wife and her family talk me in to moving
back to ky I am from la louisiana thats where we lived my wife is a few weeks pregnant so this
guy that robbed me scared the crap out of me. he told me at first he was going to stab me in
the neck but after i give him the money he let me go and the cops got him not long after that
so any way my wife and her parents talked me in to quitting my job and moving in her parents
house so any way since that has happen I never see her that much any more because she is
always doing something for her family and when I do see her she always to tired for me to spend any time with her. I mean less then a few weeks ago someone could have ended my life I need her to be here for me. but it seem’s she is to busy being there for her family
evertime I try to talk to her she get’s upset with me…….all her family has done to me dosen’t help as well. just tell me what you thinkhttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoNfCCBQw_TLb9BiWefYSpvty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100806035021AAmPw9Y
i am a little traumatized because the cops told me he did this befor and there almost sure he would have killed me he wanted the money for drugs he beat a woman half to death a few nights befor this happen

I am a former wife of a law enforcement officer. We dated during the police academy and married right after he was hired by a police department. It was during his second year as a cop that I noticed a change in his attitude and behavior at home. I can remember at one point telling him to stop treating me like I was a criminal. When I filed for a divorce, I was worried about what he would try to do to me and our daughter. I received primary custody and out of fear, declined seeking child support. Over the last two years, I have grown stronger and smarter. My question is this, male or female, what is your story when you divorced your significant other whom happened to be a law enforcement officer? Did his or her career make a divorce harder (knowing the judge who signed your divorce paper, tight with all the attorneys in town, et al). Thanks!
Just for clarification … I have been divorced for two years, seperated for three. I did have a great attorney but simply wanted to know other people who found it hard to leave their spouse because of his or her career as a law enforcement officer. I know some cops are retarted and corrupt, I know the pig jokes and donut jokes, so no need to post.
Okay- my divorce is over and really not the point of my question. I want to know if…
1. You divorced a law enforcement officer.
2. What kind of obsticals did you encounters during your divorce because of his or her career as a law enforcement officer.

Two days after my husband returned home from his 1st & only tour to Kuwait he began punching me which caused me to bite his hand in self defense that led to a car chase the next day where a minor accident happened at his fault that left me being arrested no ?s asked for assault with a vehicle & domestic violence (the bite from 2nites b4) ALL because he trowed around that he just returned home from deployment.. Y in jail he broke n2 the hm & robbed me (with the key he stole from my car at the wreck while the cops let him in my car than he disappeared for 6 months took any money we had causing me to lose everything!!! During his deployment he cheated trough internet sending complete strangers (girls) thousands of dollars & sense than he has a child due in February 2011 i have graciously packed ALL of his things & had them returned to him however ive tried making contact with his unit to find him for a divorce and or help but they’ve seen nothing of him sense they returned home idk if hes awol or whatever but he seems to have all these laws protecting him yet im the one thats held responsible for everything.. Also in the middle of packing his things i find paper work stating the reason he wasnt allowed in the army branch was he had a juvenile charge at age 12/13 on 2 counts of child molestation on a 2 & 3 year old the national guard doesnt look as hard as the army so i was unaware what i was allowing in my home. Sad to say but he was accused of crossing lines by my own daughter in church she tried reporting it but to much time had passed & the touching wasnt considered savier enough with time passed (although we did remove him from our hm at that time).. We were never aware he was this person till it was to late.. im sorry this got so long & thank you for your time.. Is there any help out there the guard has none to offer & ive been everywhere & tried everything.. All i want is a divorce from him but he has made it to where i dnt have the means possible. Can i divorce him without it costing anything is there any help for me? I did tell the judge all this & showed what proof i could he ordered me to divorce him & get away from him for my own saftey & good, than he would trow it out of court however he left out how im spose to do this.. He will met me to sign papers but want help onthe cost. Again Thank You for Your Time & Help…

I was verbally told by child support enforcement that his drivers license is suspended for child support arrears. He is court ordered to drive our son to and from my house for visitation. I don’t want to call the cops to check his license on a transfer in case child support enforcement is wrong. He could claim harassment. I went to the county magistrate and he said the police department could verify the information for me. I did that, but the police department refuses to let me know if it’s suspended or not. What should I do?

And then do they carry on with the divorce. I am in Missouri. Its a no fault state. Don’t know what other details are helpful. Cops or lawyers might be helpful here? don’t know or someone thats been through it. Thanks everyone!

My wife seems determined to divorce me. I realize, it’s better if we’re together. Best for the baby. I love my baby. It came to the point where she called the cops to kick me out. If I request counseling, what is the chance that couseling can save our marriage? What is the chance she will go to counseling with me?

Well, to start I am a stay at home mom I have no friends and I have no car. I dont go out, the only person I talk to is my mom and the only place I go to is like family parties. So here is the thing every time my husband gets mad he breaks my things (he started in Nov.07) first he broke my cell phone and a jumbo remote for my tv that i thought was really cool, then he broke a coffemaker that my mom gave me when we moved into this house. Last night he got really mad at me because i slammed the window, it really was an accident it slipped. he came out of the garage and started yelling at me and said what the f was all that slamming and why was i mad i said i wasnt mad the window just slipped. so i just stayed quiet and he kept yelling and i know he was about to get something and break it so he couldnt find anything so he punched the door really hard it cracked from the back. he said you want me to break something i said do what ever you want i am not afraid of you but if you break my things you are the one responsible and you are the one getting in trouble. Because about two months ago i purchased my computer and i thought he was gonna go for it. if he broke it this time i would call the cops. so he though about it i guess and he kept staring at me and said i think that the best thing for me to do is to pack my things and go. its like we cant ever have an argument because he always says that he should leave. man! he is such a freakin couard. another thing is that i love him he tells me he loves me and we never arrgue. but when we do he always wants to leave, i also hate it when he calls me dude every time he gets mad at me he is like dude dude dude. so any way every day is the same routine i get up take my son to school go home clean pick up my son. then he gets home from work goes in the garage and that is every day well mon-sat on the week end me and my son always stay at home he never takes us any were. ive been telling him if he could take us to the beach for like over a month now and just wont take us. I told him yesturday that we arrgued that i am tired of this life style that im just here 24-7 and he tells me well thats your life and thats how its gonna be. And i said to him that why he has friends and he goes with them when ever he wants, he tells me that nobody can stop him from leaving or doing what ever he wants. and i hate it when he tells me that. may be in my case i am the only one in love. I have been applying for jobs but so far noone has called i think that i should just work and be independent. buy myself a car and go places with my son. One reason why i dont let my husband go is because we have a son. and i dont want him to suffer. So that is my story if any one can give me some advice please help
and if i was to leave him, i still love him, how do i heal my broken heart. =(