Right now the divorce rate among Christians is nearly as high as for society in general, even though most Churches oppose divorce. It seems like requiring extensive premarital counseling and Bible study about marriage expectations would help prepare people for marriage and help reduce the divorce rate. Certainly Christians need to do whatever is possible reduce divorce, and it seems that this may help

My husband and I got into an argument last night about money……money seems to be the center of most of our arguments. We are not doing well financially right now.

Every time we get into a rut, he always says "It’s going to get better". It hasn’t.

The reason this question is in the Religion section is because I want some Christian opinions.

Christians, what do you do when you and your spouse have a financial argument? How is it settled? Do you ever have a hard time forgiving each other when money is brought up?

BTW, I am a Christian.

The money situation, I feel, is tearing us apart and I hate to think like that.

There are other things in our marriage that we have problems with too……like when we argue, I don’t like to argu at all in front of other people…..he doesn’t seem to care. He has all these ideas about wanting to get another vehicle, and I don’t really want to and he wants to "Put money into it", etc.

Advice?
I’m not sure how "Christian" my husband is anymore, either. He doesn’t want to even give the 10% tithe that we are told in the Bible to give. I tell him that if we do, God will bless us for it ….. but he doesn’t want to.

If he is supposed to lead, then why isn’t he making the right decisions???

I’m not going to want to let him get a "project car" and keep us in huge debt.

Some Christians believe that dating should only come when you are ready for marriage, some say that dating prepares you for relationships and marriage.

What do you think?

The US Census Reports and US National Divorce Statistics at present show that the religious group with the highest divorce rate are Christians in particular the evangelical and southern baptist sects. Their rate of divorce is even HIGHER than couples professiing no relgious affiliation or to be atheist. Even more surprising its the conservative RED state- Texas and not California, New York or even Nevada that is the LEADING divorce state in the USA.

Now the reason I ask this is because CHristians LOVE to proclaim their religious standards of family life the HIGHEST ones. How come the facts don’t support this? Secondly, is their problem that they’ve completely outlawed pre-marital sex for their followers resulting in their young people getting married TOO young in order to have sex? After all, waiting till you finish college, get a job, house and then getting married will mean being celibate till you are around 25-29. That’s a LONG time when your hormones are at its peak. Opinions?

Some Christian communities believe that dating is meant only for adults who have intentions of getting married. They believe that teenage dating is scandalous because teenagers are still in their early years of development and are not ready to get married, so there is no point in dating. Thus it would be scandalous for teenagers to be dating.

When it comes to dating for adults, some Christians are very strict about it, believing adult couples should be accompanied by chaperones and never left alone together.

What are your thoughts?

My ex-boyfriend and I decided to try couples counseling to try to work things out. Before I get into that, he always told me that I needed god in my life. He would try to get me to go to church but I always refused because mainly I’m not that religious.So, today he finally got a hold of this counseling group and he wanted me pick out a counselor with him. He presents this Christians Counseling brochure of different Christian Counselors. He said this is the only place he could find. What a liar, it pissed me off, he knows that I’m not Christian, not that religious, and I think its a biased approach of thearapy. I told him I would try it,(to see his reaction) then he put down his head and had this smirk on his face, thats what set me off. I felt he was trying to trap me into a Christians approach to life and he did that on purpose. I’m still upset but I feel bad about not giving it a chance and in a way I feel I should stand my ground and not give in to this point of view. Am I wrong?

Difficult to find a "for real" dating site with Christians. Is there a subscribe-only site/less spam or something that might be free? Anything that’s run by a Christian organization??

Suppose I meet a girl at a Baptist church, and I date her for about a month. We’re both Christians. After a month goes by, I tell her that I think we should break up because she could do a lot better than me. I tell her that she could find someone more successful, attractive, stronger, etc., and I seriously question why she wants to be with me when there are plenty of more-eligible singles around.

Many Christian couples have kids and have been living together for years but never married. This is fornication. Is it OK for Christians to commit fornication with the person they love, even on Valentine’s Day?

I’m an Indian, married and living in Dubai. I am looking for a good divorce lawyer based in Dubai who is well aware of the regulations governing Indian divorce law for Christians. Thanks!