Everytime I hear about someone cheating on their significant other, I hear that the relationship ended. Why is that? Don’t people usually want to save the relationship? I’m only 14 and don’t really know much about this kinda stuff so please don’t call me an ignorant cheater.

Everytime I hear about someone cheating on their significant other, I hear that the relationship ended. Why is that? Don’t people usually want to save the relationship? I’m only 14 and don’t really know much about this kinda stuff so please don’t call me an ignorant cheater.

My husband had an affair; we divorced. Our one child, 13, knows nothing of the cause. Now she wants to go live with him and his girlfriend (they’re getting married in a few months). Aside from being a cheater and liar, he’s also irresponsible (tens of thousands in ducked-out-on bills, drinks, etc.). My daughter thinks he’s wonderful and senses that I am not keen for her to move in with them. She says ‘what do you have against Daddy? He’s a good person. He never did anything wrong.’ What do I tell her?

I found out about 5 months ago that my husband had cheated on me 3 times before we were married, once while we were married and once during a trial separation… we are trying to make it work… we have a 7 week old son and i can sort of forgive him because we’re only 19 and i had cheated on my last boyfriend (that’s how i learned that cheating is as bad as people say) but i still become angry with him over it every day… will it get any easier to be with him?

*** oh and I learned of his escapades because he told me about it in an attempt to save our marriage
please no "once a cheater always a cheater" comments…

I know I made a huge mistake. The biggest mistake of my life. I’ve never been so sorry and so guilty in my life. It was a one time mistake and I’m never going to do it again.

I want to seek help from couples counseling. Even if I only have 0.0000000000001% of him forgiving me and wanting to work on the relationship. I would still like to give that a try.

My boyfriend is still very devastated. I told him yesterday that I cheated on him 2 years ago. We’ve talked briefly this morning but he was still very angry and hurt. How can he not be right? I would just kill me if I were him. I can’t believe I was so stupid. I have no excuses. It’s all my fault.

How long do you think I should wait before proposing the idea of going to couple’s counseling with him? I’m willing to do whatever it takes to save the relationship.

http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/relationships/24018/dating-myth-or-truth-once-a-cheater-always-a-cheater

ps: I don’t mean to be a demanding brat or anything, but I’m sincerely and desperately seeking for help. Please none of that "you deserve it" speeches. Some people really are willing to change and are truthfully sorry. Please, and I’m asking in a crying puppy kind of way… if you’re not helping (ie. posting rude comments instead of answering the question), please just… just don’t bother. Have a nice day torturing other people who are posting out of boredom.
Sorry and I must state again, and I quote: "How long do you think I should wait before proposing the idea of going to couple’s counseling with him?"

That’s my question. Sorry for any misunderstandings.
What makes this worse is that we’re 12 hours apart (12 hours by AIR that is…..). He has relocated to another Country (his home country, actually) for work 7 months ago. I was going to move over there to start a live with him in a month. It’s a huge decision for both of us, I better come clean. I don’t want him to regret on this decision of welcoming me into his life there.

I already have my ticket booked, quitted my job, started my farewell dinners with my friends and family.

I’m going to fly over there and work this out. I’m not going to give up so easily. I love him so much.

and the children adore him. It is not the childrens fault the father had some nookie with the secretary. It is not the childrens fault hubby cheated. How can a mother be so selfish to put her hurt pride over the wellbeing of the children.
She should not put her children through divorce if the husband is a good father who benefits the children. And please do not give me that a cheater can not be a good father line. By that logic many mothers would need to give away their children.

I need to get out of my marriage ASAP. My husband is abusive and a liar and a cheater. I just found out all of this and I would prefer representation because he is incredibly manipulative. Child support and Child Custody will need to be addressed as well…does anyone have any recommendations? I’ve gone to one lawyer and they charge from 3500-5000 with a retainer of 2500..that’s crazy! My husband wants to do the online filing but I don’t want to.
I live in CT.

I mean how can you tell somebody that getting is wrong? You don’t know the whole situation so how you you determine that the couple need counseling if in all actually divorce is in the best interest.

The spouse could be abusive, a gambler, cheater, or drug user. So why say you shouldn’t get married when sometimes the person didn’t see these things coming?

I think that one would be naive woman, but i’m not entirely sure,I would like a girls opinion on this, yes I know that in cheating it comes down the person and you can’t technically label one a cheater via stereotypicaly, however I can’t but speculate the fact that there seems to be a pattern with girls who cheat and them being naive… what do you think, if you have more stereotypical traits, please throw them out there.

I am 17. My parents just split up about a week ago. My mom was dropping me off at work (eck no, I can’t drive yet) and she told me that she was going to go into AA and take counseling. She said in a couple months she thought it would be a good idea for me to take counseling too, to work out any issues I have from the abuse I’ve dealt with the past 6 years (verbal, not physical). I think I am fine. lol You know? But do you think I should try it anyway and see what comes up or what? It sounds like it would be interesting to hear what they had to say, but I’m not too keen on telling them anything personal about myself. Opinions? Thanks. =)
I suppose it’s fair to mention alcholism, drugs, and infidelity are involved. -_- Not me though! I despise the stuff. My mom was the alcoholic. My dad was the cheater. And they both smoke pot. lol Good times eh? lol