My fiance recently brought up pre-marital counseling and suggested we look into it. His main reasoning was that we should think/talk about things like children. He proposed to me after 9 years of dating, and we will have been together (living together also) for 10 years at the time of the wedding. After all the research I’ve done, I cannot seem to find any bases that would be covered in this session that we have either not covered already or are not capable of covering on our own. While many people say ‘what have you to lose’, I can’t help but think ‘oh, about 0 that could go toward the event that we are paying for with no help and saving for while he finishes college. I love him dearly, and will do whatever he needs- so if he says this is important, it is what we will do. However, I need to know that this is the best use of our hard-earned money. It is not easy for a fresh college grad to save for a wedding while supporting her graduate student fiance.
I think the cost could easily be as high as 0 btw… I really don’t know. My fiance has not said he WANTS to do it, just that we should think about it. I appreciate all your opinions- however for those of you who suggest doing this, can you tell me why? What is covered in a counseling session with a total stranger that can not be discussed between the two of us. We are very open and honest with each other, and are not afraid to talk about issues. I don’t see what a counselor can do, other than tell us what we already know (communication is important, etc.)
Oh, btw- I am not against going AT ALL. I just don’t want to waste that kind of money being told a bunch of BS we already know. If he wants to go, I’ll go. If I hear some good information on what is covered in this that we have not already covered on our own, then I’ll go happily. Please, do not assume I am pushing it away. I am just trying to understand it. Oh, P.S. we are not religious- so that is not an issue here.

Counseling is very expensive and though one could say that you can’t put a value on your marriage, if one does not have lots of money then should they watch their marriage go down the drain? Need some answers. Please no BS.

Ok here’s the deal. I think my mom made up a line of BS. She told her boyfriend that she can’t marry him because she is already married.

She goes on to explain that they were married for a while but the relationship fell apart and he moved out. They didn’t move to divorce right away because neither one had much money. Later he meets another woman and decides he wants to marry her but cannot find my mom to sign the divorce papers.

Now this is where I believe the lie begins. She said he got something called a one-way divorce, which in her way of explaining it means that since she didn’t sign the papers the judge granted him a divorce but she is not legally divorced because she wasn’t there for the proceedings.

Is that really true? Can that really happen? I ask because I thought a divorce was a complete dissolution of the whole marriage, not just half. Can someone explain this? Please?

By the way, this marriage occurred in the state of Virginia, if that is necessary.

Why should they always get a guys money after the divorce and then get the kids too, what’s up with this BS of the courts favoring women?

I have my AS in radiography but am going for a bs in biology to go to physical therapy school.

I am a current college student pursuing my BS in Athletic Training and wanted to become a Sports Physical Therapist or at least get my masters in Physical Therapy. What is a good college to go to and obtain a Physical Therapy degree? Is it better do get a Doctorate or just keep it at a masters and jump right in the Physical Therapy field?

or would it be worth the money to find a reputable marriage therapist not covered under insurance. I just want to make the visits worthwhile and not sure the psychologists covered under BC/BS are as good.