I’m 21, a black man and my youngest brother, and this white girl wants to date him, but I don’t want him to. I don’t want him to because white girls will get young black men locked up for false rape charges. I told him that some white girls got blonde hair, blue eyes, pale and have flat a**ses and look like vampires. I also told him he should date a black girl. How do I protect him from interracial dating and the white girls?

Today I decided to look for psychological help, I didn’t before because I didn’t know where or how to obtain help. I was doing some research online and found this great website that you have. I was wondering if you can please help me or guide me as to where I need to go or who can help me and my partner. We have been in a relationship for almost 5 years. We were so young when we started, he was only 15 and I was 16 years old, we moved in together after 2 years. I have been through a lot in life, when I was small i saw many things that a child wasn’t supposed to see. I saw my father cheating on my mom for many years, but worse of all with my mothers sister, I would see them having sexual intercourse with each other wield I slept in the same bed with my other brother when I was 9 years old. Throughout the years, my father was a drug addict ever since I can remember he worsen when I was a teenager. His reactions and actions would scar me emotionally, but I just never let that anger out of me. I would kick him out of my house because my mother and brothers would see the effects the drugs would cause him to do. When I had just turned 17 my mother was dating a guy my age that really affected me emotionally because of what people would say since my mom, dad and her boyfriend would work together. A few moths after she left with a different guy and made me suffer a lot emotionally because she took my brothers, and left me with my dad. My dad had worsened, and I wasn’t able to help him. That’s when I moved out with my boyfriend he was just turning 18. Our relationship was the best ever, but after I got to know him I found that he had anger problems that would cause him to show his anger by hitting me. I found comfort in a guy at school when I was a senior; it made it difficult because I had no place to go or a job. I wanted the relationship to stop because I had never thought I would have been one of those girls that would be in a abusive relationship. We ended up staying together as a couple until now, both have mature in different ways. He asked me for help as well, abusive relationship runs in his family circle his grandpa, his dad and himself. He wants help and I do to, I believe we want to make things work and not give up on one another, he’s scared in having kids or getting married because he feels that his kids will suffer like both have suffer as we were growing up. He tells me he’s traumatize because he would see his father kit his mom and because his mom cheated on his dad with his brother. He wants to form a family in the future but needs help in overcoming the fear that his family will not suffer if he gets help first. We both need to become better persons, we some counseling in our relationship, anger problem, depression, and fear. I think finding help was our first step. Do you think you can find any help for us? Please let me know.

Spanish counseling is available English will be ok
Weboth have lived difficult lives with our parents. His dad was an alcoholic and use to hit mom, they would fight a lot as well through out the years he never saw anything like it until one day she got out of work at 2 am since she was on the night shift and when they were coming in we saw his mom crying she had her face all beat up badly as well as her body she had a panic attack after that and he called the police and his dad left. Few months after she left to San Francisco with his 2 brothers and he stayed with his dad because he knew his dad was going to be depress. His mom then had an affair with his brother and that really affected my partner as well. Few months after his parents got together and they just had a baby boy. They seem happy for 1 yr but they started having economical problems and they fight a lot.

My brother is married, but going thru a separation right now ( his wife asked for a trial separation) So of course he’s beside himself and I made the mistake of telling my friend this. Because they were an "item" before he met his wife. Anyhow, my brother sent her an innocent email asking her what kind of person she thought he was while they were dating. And now all she talks about is my brother. She sends him emails regularly. But like a fool he is responding, keeping the letters going. He says that he still loves his wife & at 1st he said he wanted to work things out with her, but lately he’s be doing nothing but bad mouthing her and thinking of getting a divorce. And I am wondering how much influence my friend is having on him. She herself is single and longs to have someone in her life, and frankly, I think she sees what she wants in him, They’ve got a past, plus he’s got a new baby, and she loves babies. So she’ll have no problem playing "mommy" to his child.
Everyone can see this but him. I know he is distraught, but I really fear for him if he continues to further engage her in conversation, she ( I think ) is reading more into this than there is and I think will push him to chose her or his wife( trust me, I’ve known this woman for 10+ yrs)
What can I do as his sister?
My brothers wife also took off her wedding band. To me, this states " Hey guys, I’m available" . I probably shouldn’t have told my friend anything. maybe he wouldn’t be talking to her if he thought she didn’t know anything about the situation.
I don’t know if she is going to any kind of counceling, but I know my brother is.

My brother has an infant child w/a woman and needs to set up something to start paying child support. He got an eviction notice for her but when they went to court on the eviction notice, the Judge said that he wouldn’t make her move out until he set up child support. How can he go about doing that? They were never married.
The state is Georgia.

My brother is divorced from his wife whom they have a child together. He has partial custody of his son. In the divorce papers it is stated that she is to meet him half way on trips when he is to take his son. She has yet to do as stated in the divorce papers. She is also not the best of mothers. My brother is a SPC in the Army and has a stable job unlike his ex-wife. How can he fight for full custody of son without having to involve a lawyer?

My parents are 60 and preparing to get divorced. They’re sort of separated. My Mom left Dad’s house and came to my town to find work as an in-house babysitter. She’s desperate to "live a little" so she ‘s into dating sites and agreeing to even spend the night at men she barely knows.

She’s not at all the sexy Pamela Anderson type, she’s a modest looking woman who has neglected herself all her life because of my Dad.

Today she asked me on the phone to pick her up tonight from a guy’s place. But when I get to his building, I call her to get out and she tells me she can’t leave, when I insist she tells me she’s ok and she’s staying the night cause she wants to…

She wants to come to my place tomorrow and when I told her i don’t want this stranger to give her a ride to my home address, she just laughed at me. She doesn’t understand that as a 28 y.o daughter, I can’t trust a 50 y.o man that my mom met on the Internet a week ago.

My brother offered to pick her up tomorrow morning from this guy’s flat and my mum still insists that this man bring her to my house with his car.

I believe I have the right not to let a stranger know where I live and I am very worried that my Mom might get herself in risky situations, but she just acts like a rebellious teenager, lying to me and my brother several times.

She is not open to seeing a counsellor or a support group for divorced women, that would help her be more confident and balanced… She just wants to find another boyfriend fast.Another man to depend on. She also has no savings, no place to go except this family she’s a babysitter for and my grandparents house 200 miles away. I live with roommates so I can’t tell her to come live with me on a permanent basis.

If I lived with her I’d be worried about the men she’d bring to the house.

How can I detach myself from my Mom’s crazy dating situation?

My husband is in a codependent relationship with his brother, who has issues with gambling and substance, and who has been in and out of prison for the past 6 years. H "detached" from brother and was doing well, but now BIL is out of jail, and I learned from a credit card bill that H had rented a car for BIL for a month and a half on our insurance, using his own license. BIL has a suspended license for DUIs. If there had been an accident where there were injuries or death, we would have been liable, and insurance wouldn’t have covered it. We could have lost everything — house, assets, the works, and with three teens headed for college, it would have been disastrous. I can’t believe my husband did this without consulting me, and that he did something that put the family’s financial welfare at stake. I can’t trust my husband anymore and would like to protect our assets. I would like to avoid divorce for the kids’ sake, but is that possible in this case?
Thanks for responses so far. To respond to Frank, my H and I separated for 6 months 4 years ago over these issues. At that time, H was pulling money out of bank accounts to bail B out, and another time, pressuring me to take out a Home Equity on our home to save B’s house in foreclosure. H did some therapy and recovery for his codependency because he was not "helping" but destroying himself and his own family to enable his brother, and we reconciled with H committing to stop enabling. Now, it is the same cycle over and over again. If H did not learn after a separation, how will he learn if I just sit down and have a "chat" with h im? This has all been tried before, but the pattern is continuing, and now it includes lying to me as well. There will be no college for these 3 kids if an incident like this happens again.

My brother is getting divorced from his wife of several years — she left him, taking all their possessions with her, while he was at work one day and he came home to an empty apartment.

Subsequently, he has gone overseas and their divorce (and property settlement) is still pending.

Because the evil ex can’t get in touch with him, she keeps harassing my parents, demanding that they give her her property (they kept some of their joint possessions in my parents’ garage).

Can my parents get in trouble legally? It’s not even their property to give to her, and my brother has as much right to the stuff as she does, particularly since she’s already got most of their possessions with her.

Can my parents refuse to get involved?? If so, how?

I am in need of advice for marriage. My parents have liked this guys and they had mentioned and introduced him to me. And he did ask my hand for marriage. The only problem is I don’t know much about his past as I have only met him few times. The thing that scares me he has indian background so I don’t know how strong he carries the tradition and rituals. I am also indian background but because I been in US for so long my thinking and habits have changed a lot. He been in States for 5 years and pursued his MS here.
He does have huge family like 3 sister and 3 brother and their kids so it huge tribe.
Its been so hard for me to make decision I don’t love him yet because it is an arranged marriage but final decision is in my hand. And he asked me like three times what is my answer. To me he seems very family oriented. Also he is four years bigger than me so I don’t is the age gap too much.
Please let me know what I can expect from person who is raised in India as compare to person who is raised up in US.
thanks!!!

My brother and girlfriend have 3 kids together. He has previous legal problems with violence and now a problem with a suspended lincense. She is not inocent at all but no police record of it. She is the kind of person that will take the kids and not let any one see them. Since they are not married, how will the joint custody work? What are the chances he can get it?