What should I expect to happen while Im going thru this process….Please serious answers…I have been tryin to plan financially….Reason for the divorce is he is verbally and physically abusive (I would tremble when he gets angry)….Not all the time but atleast twice a year…I have tolerated it because it wasnt everyday after all the women you hear about on tv seem to endure it each day of there lives….I KNOW BETTER NOW….I dont want to be that woman that stays and lives all life of miserable….Its been 18 years of this stuff…..I want to know what true love really is and it isnt being called a bitch or a whore……Im tryin to plan financially but I find I am having a wave of emotions mainly FEAR….It is so scary leavin but the thought of stayin is dreadful but comfortable at the same time …..I feel like a failure and its all my fault and I deserve whatever I get…Im a sick puppy for stayin so long..I know he was wrong but I have to look at myself so I can get better so it never happens again…I should have left the first time but I if it makes any sense I just didnt know HOW! Please help me I am so scared right now….Feel like I dont know what to do

ok my stepfather just gave my mom a divroce notice because he wants a divorce and she has 20 days to respond to it. He wants her to use her maiden name and also wants to split the marital assets. However the reasons he gave for divorce are totally bs as my mom has evidence to disprove all of his reasons. He’s a real retard btw. He’s currently paying childsupport for 3 other kids, and my mom has 3 kids with him. 11 years old, 4 years old, and 1 year old. He makes more mone than my mom. A lot more I think. So my mom wants childsupport for the 3 kids, and she also wants him to keep them on his health insurance, and also wants to keep the house because she has the kids. Do you think she would get this. And also this guy is a complete asshole. My mom was doing a lot of running around around my grandfathers funeral and she was coming in late because everyday they had a "wake" at my grandfathers house which is basically a little get together before the funeral for friends and family and hes telling my mom why is she going to that when shes the host because its her grandfathers funeral. And he’s saying she’s roaming the streets when she’s trying to get everything together for her fathers funeral. And he even called his kid, the 11 year old a bitch, and a pussy, and the police had tos top by after the ruckus was heard. Tell me do you think my mom will get what she was asking for.

ok, so i went out with this guy for 7 months. we were really close, and he finally broke up with me in april for another girl. i gotta admit, even though shes a bit too hyper and energetic, shes way more fun than me.

i’m 16 btw.

so it was heartbreaking at first, and we still decided to be friends, and we still talked when we saw eachother in the halls and stuff. He wasn’t a jerk and ignored me or anything. it was ok i guess. over the summer i didn’t see him AT ALL… which honestly helped because i got over him for the most part.

i’m in band, so band camp started in august, and i saw him again. we said hi and talked. then later that day he called me and asked to hang out. i accepted. he told me that he was having trouble with his g/f (the one he broke up with me for) and how he thinks shes crazy, and sometimes shes a bitch, and how i never used to be a bitch, and how he misses me and how he still has feelings for me, and how hes thinking of breaking up with her. So i could kind of get wat he was about to do.

he broke up with her the next week and asked to go out with me. Since i was almost all over him, i kind of hesitated. i wasn’t sure. but since our relationship before was so great, i decided to give him a 2nd chance. i mean, he told me he made a mistake and everybody makes mistakes. so yah.

we lasted for only 1 week, and he broke up with me again, and told me that hes rly sorry but he still seems to have feelings for the other girl.

this pissed me off, but we still decided to be friends. but this time… he’s not as close. we started off being close friends, but now he ignores me in the halls at school.

the thing is that when we went back out, i got feelings for him again, despite being over him during the summer. so if it took me 3 whole months of not seeing him at all to get over him, how am i supposed to do it now? i feel terrible. i thought he was rly the one, and the first relationship lasted 7 months!!! i can’t get over him now . i feel horrible. i’m depressed and i can’t focus on my studies. I mean it would at least help if he didn’t ignore me, but he does :’(.

i feel incredibly stupid. ive never felt this way before, and i hate myself for giving him a second chance

how do i get over him once and for all???

PLZ HELP!!!! thanx

Let’s say you finally managed to get Swedish citizenship, and that your rotten vindictive cheating whore of an ex wife has finally managed to track you down and you get a nasty letter in the mail from her lawyer. If you’re a Swedish citizen, could you still be forced to pay that bitch, or could you send her a letter telling her to eat shit and die?

Here’s a hard one.

My parents have decided that they can’t deal with each other anymore and my mother has filed for a divorce. They have been having issues, neither party fully to blame, but are throwing in the towel.

As their child, I am caught up in this. I have seen the divorce attorney in charge, and she is, with all due respect to divorce attorneys, a complete bitch. I believe she is stretching the things my mother has told her and embellishing them so that neither party wants to back out of the divorce.

Can I sue this attorney? If so, what can I sue her for, formally? I do not like the way she is handling this, and I don’t like how she’s encouraging what I think can be solved with counseling. I think she is jumping to conclusions and letting the marriage dissolve.

I do not want my parents to get a divorce. My life is changing and this is not how I want to enter college. Things are falling apart.
She’s an accessory in tearing apart my family. I have every right to want her uninvolved.
I’m sorry. I wasn’t aware that feeling upset, angry, and resentful of a problem that, yes, I am involved in, was "effing selfish."

Cunt.

My friend is asking me for advice but I have no idea how to respond.

See, her family is very affluent. Her father is a doctor, her mother a lawyer. So, you get the picture, eh?

Anyway, her fiances family are very poor. So poor in that they can’t afford phones or internet and they were once threatened for eviction. They also depend on their son (my friends fiance) to provide for them because his father is layed off but the job before he was layed didn’t even pay enough so he honestly was okay with it. His mother works full time at an office job with very low pay. He works full time at Walmart.

Anyway, my friend has had major arguments with his family (mainly his mother and sister) about money. The sister also doesn’t understand the point of college because no one in her family went except her brother (my friends fiance). My friend made a comment to the sister about the option of college and almost instantly the sister snapped and cursed her out. She claims that college is for people who care about money too much and then pointed her finger at my friend and called her a greedy spoiled bitch. This girl is 22 and SUPER immature. When I wittnessed this I almost didn’t know how to react. I told her to calm down and then she went at me claiming that I was just as greedy.

She also dropped out of college for an entire year because her boyfriend of 2 weeks broke up with her so as you can see, she’s fairly emotional. Now my friend is backing out of marriage or at least, attempting to because she feels threatened by his family. I honestly feel horrible and I have told her if you love him, stay with me and ignore his family, but the thing is, they live so close and he actually gets along well with his sister…they talk on the phone at least twice a week. Considering that my friend is already living with him and has to answer the phone or listen to his conversations with the sister, she gets so depressed. I know he loves her, but he loves his sister too. He tried to talk to his sister, but nothing goes through her brain. My friend is backing out and she has told me she wants me to convince her to stick with the plan and marry the guy of her dreams.. I don’t know what to do. I told her to go for it but she needs more help.

PLEASE I BEG YOU OUT OF THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART, HELP ME HELP HER.
*stay with him.
"csucdart…" it’s about my friend getting into marriage. she is currently engaged and soon to be married. that is why this is under marriage.

Ok, i’ve been with my husband now for 2 and a half years and lately i’ve been feeling a little disconnected from him. we haven’t had sex for 3+ weeks and i know he isn’t cheating on me. i’m 110% positive he isn’t so don’t reply if that’s going to be your answer. He says he doesn’t see anything wrong with our relationship and that he had so much sex before we got together that it’s like nothing to him now and he doesn’t crave for it. well that kinda stinks for me cause we only have sex when he feels like it. i feel like a guy!!! and he uses it against me if we are in a disagreement he says we cant have sex cause i was being a bitch. or that something was my fault. we don’t snuggle anymore the only time we actually touch is before he goes to work in the morning and we peck kiss. no tongue no intimacy no nothing. what is going on here. again i know for a fact he isn’t cheating and he says he doesn’t see anything wrong with our relationship and he says he still loves me…. what’s going one? what can i do?

do parents deliberately try to be assholes to each other during divorce ? all they end up doing is making an ass out of themselves my mom is a bitch she is getting married to a man I dont like my dad is a dick bc he likes to treat me as his counselor. all they keep doing is making me not want to live with either of them btw my mom and dad haven’t even been split up for 3 months lil soon for my mother to get engaged eh ? yeah so I think they try to make each other sad but all the hell they are doing is hurting me !!!!!!!!!!!! What should I do ??????

I know i will really miss this person, and
i know i will be lonely.
i know i will miss the sex.
i know it will be hard. i’ve tried it before and then i change my mind.
i know this is going no where in the future for either of us.
i know i want to be happy.

Should i even do this? *sigh* holidays make things like this hard, and yes i plan to wait until AFTER Christmas to attempt this…i am not a total bitch…ha ha