My bf pays support for 3 children at 0 a month, plus half daycare for the youngest who is still in daycare, he pays 55 % of all medical costs. He provides insurance on the children. His oldest son moved in with us for lack of his mother doing anything for him. he came to us with holes in his socks! They make the same hourly pay rate, he basically gives her 50 a month after everything is said and done. The 2 younger children are still with her for now and he still has to pay the same amount of support for 2 that he was paying for 3, is this fair?
To cover all the details, she had an affair on him they got divorced and now she cant stand me being in the picture so she uses the children to get back at him. She does not comply with the court order for visitations, his middle son also wants to live with us because he is being shoved to the side for his sister. She treats the 2 younger children totally different, like the princess and the pauper. the girl gets it all and he gets nothing, not even attention. if he is in the middle of a tv show and sister wants the tv, she gets it and he has to stop his show. I dont know if it is normal for parents to show that much favoritism between there children, but I dont do that between my own children and his. His middle son is begging to come live with us, we have to fight with him to take him home after his visits with dad. Dad has begged her for more time with the children and he would still pay her the same support, but she refuses to give him the children any extra time. She has a schedule she lives by, get up 4 :45 am go for a walk, leaving the 10 yr old to watch the 5 yr old for an hour. gets ready for work, kids go to school/daycare, gets off work at 3pm, does not pick children up until 5pm after her second hour long walk of the day and 45 minutes of working on a boflex, she also had a bit of an eating disorder. she only eats salad so the kids get pb & j or soup for dinner, they are ready fr bed by 7:30, so why cant he get his kids more? she doesnt do anything with them.
She always tells the kids that their dad does nothing for them and doesnt help her at all(refer back to the support details) they both make over an hour however thru the divorce he got the house and had to buy a new car, we heat with Oil and god knows the pricing on that these days, her new house is thru work and it is 0 a month ALL UTILITIES PAID, her car is paid for, etc. Yet she could not aford to put decent sock on her sons feet, she interacts with the children about 3 hours a day and wont let him have more time with them. He is thinking of going for partial custody so he can have his children more. Has anyone been in this situation before and what rights does he have to go for this and any advice will be appreciated. He really misses his children and he does help her alot with the kids financially. I dont understand why she puts him down so much and me for that mater when shes the one who had the affair, now its like she uses the children to hurt him because he really loves his kids! I dont understand this at all, even though I am divorced I do not use my children against the other parent, Im just happy that they are involved, isnt that the important thing. I think having a father is just as essential to a child as having a mother. In this case, unless she focuses more of her time on her children instead of leaving them in daycare until closing, why cant he get them instead of them sitting in a daycare, it isnt fair. Its not just hurting him either its really hurting their children as well. ADVICE PLEASE!!!

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So my Sim has a boyfriend and they’ve been together for about a day. She is turning an adult so i need her to hurry up and get married. The option to propose is up but he rejected me (i asked him the first day of being my boyfriend). How long does it take for the sims to be bf and gf until the bf will say yes to her proposal!!! she is all sad now cuz he said no. how long do they have to be together until the guy will accept and they get married!

Hurry! cuz my sim is getting old. she’s already an adult and not married!

I’ll give you 10 points if you give me the answer that helps!!!
THX!

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My Bf who is in BMT right now just found out he has something wrong with his back. They sent him to the hospital over there and they did an MRI and found that he has a bulging disc and I think something wrong with his vertebrae. Does anyone know roughly how long it takes for a medical entry level separation? They did say he would be going home but not how long it would take. He’s waiting in the 319. Thanks in advance!

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I played a (non-funny) joke on my bf. I told him I had leukemia and that I needed a bone marrow transplant and that I will lose my hair within the next 5 years. I don’t know why I did it and I apologized like 100 times. I feel so bad. I want to make it up to him. How do I do that? Can anyone explain to me why I did that? Help me please.

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i have been in my own counseling for sometime now.my bf has been in his own as well. his therapist retired and he has since picked up a new one recently. i suggested couples counseling as we have many conflicts. he was verrry hesitant about it due to fear of of a bad experience in counseling with his former wife.

i am not the same as her. i explained that counseling is not about being right. we cannot work things out on our own and need some help.

he came to me last week and asked me to see his therapist with him at her suggestion because this is the area he wants to work on.

i dont think i have alot to loose. if she is professional she will just assess the situation probably and try to help. i just thought we should have a therapist outside our own individual help.

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i have been with my bf for a little over a year…and i hardly want to have sex anymore…its been this way for at lease 4 months…does that mean its over for me?

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I think/feel like I’m going crazy. My bf moved out of state. We agreed on a trial separation b/c the job market here is so bad. Well, he’s not doing much better there. He has a job, but it doesn’t even cover what he pays out, so the plan to get financially ahead is dead in the water, unless he finds a 2nd and/or 3rd job too.

I’ve asked him to return. I’ve moved into a MUCH smaller space, and have gotten a promotion since he left. We’ve been in this relationship for almost 10 years and I love him dearly. I don’t know how to carry on without him, especially when our plan doesn’t seem to be working. He’s only been gone 2 months. I have days where I can’t think of anything at all. My heart just aches. He says he doesn’t want to return until the financial mess is cleared up because he wants us to have a future together. That if he were to come home to soon, we may begin to argue again and it may lead to a permanent break.

I trust his feelings for me. How do I cope with the loss? I have a 14 year old son, and no family here. I actually moved here to be with him. (ironic) and only a few friends at work, but we don’t see each other socially.

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My bf has this great natural sent and sometimes after I wash I’m alone I can smell him on me. I know it sounds crazy but can anyone relate? I know everybody has there own natural sent, but is this possible, please explain.
What if I still smell him after almost a year, its like his bodily chemicals are intertwined with mine.

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I have a problem regarding to sex in the relationship. i was in sex less marrige for 7years and that gives me huge impact to my sex life after divorce. it makes me feel that i’m not wanted at all, not attracteve to my partner, i can’t initiate sex becasue of fear of rejection, too much frustration and anger occur when my partner is not willing to have sex.(i think i have a high sex drive) i always feel so insecure about if my partner is bored with me and lose interested in having sex with me someday soon, and since i have pretty high sex drive, i always get depressed too much when my bf didn’t want it.

I am currently dating with this man and he has lower sex drive than me. i need to make love to him as much as possible(we see each other 1 or 2/week and im happy if i get 1 or 2) but sometimes he is not in the mood even that number so it makes me really dissapointed.

then even though i don’t want to but we start argue about sex. then our sex get awkward…

should i seek sex therapist to get an advice or should i stick to looking for a man who fillful my need?

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See my previous ? for more info:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvsXr.PYHfFJwolB.uquo3bty6IX?qid=20070520201211AArmguh

So I finally was able to get my boyfriend to make us a couples’ counseling appt which is free thru his work. We’ve been to 5 weekly sessions and I feel that we are getting nowhere! Instead of working on concrete problems (he’s irresponsible and it stresses me out) we spend half the session doing silly worksheets like "the 10 myths of love" and talking about how bad our childhoods were. Worse, I feel like whenever I do bring up an actual problem, the counselor turns it around and explains that my bf acts this way because he’s still acting out rebellion towards his alcoholic father. I think she’s enabling my bf to act like a child instead of taking responsibility for his actions in the present! Is it a case of "you get what you pay for" or is this how counseling really works? What should I say? Our last "freebie" appt is Fri.

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