I am 27 and my husband of almost 3 years is 24. we moved from WA to CA 4 years ago and it has been a very hard time for me. He told me when we first started dating that this is where he wanted to be and what his plans were for his career and every thing, but he wanted me to be with him so i moved away from ALL of my family and friends. It was very hard for me because i had never been without my support group, and all i had was my husband. He is very dedicated to his job and we had some really great times, but over the years, my unhappiness and lonliness, along with the sudden death of my father really made me an unhappy person. It became obvious that we had grown into different people, and were wanting different things. My husband just last week told me that the love he feels isn’t what he should feel for a wife. he loves me as a person and his best friend, but we have grown apart as husband and wife. And he also knows that i would be happier being back with my friends and
family, which i would. I haven’t made any close friends down here. My husband has decided that the best thing would be for us to split up before we have kids because we just want different things in life. He said that he will not turn his back on me and that I am his best friend and he is still living at home, just in the other bedroom. In his mind he has already moved on (there is no one else) and our marriage is over. But this is a huge shock to me. I am so scared to not have him in my life every day and have the affection we once had. We truly are best friends and are trying to make this as easy as possible and still get coffee together and joke and stuff. I just feel like someone has died, and although i know that we will still be in each other’s lives, this isn’t how i wanted things to end up. I wanted babies and to grow old with this man.
Has anyone gone thru something similar and can give me something positive? No mean comments please…
I also asked for support, not insults and putdowns.

What happened?Well, a family situation took place that sorta caused my husband to clam up and not want to talk about things.Then all of a sudden after 4 years of me working night shift he decides he wants me to quit and stay at home.I made as much as him and didn’t want to give up my job.So for a couple of months we couldn’t agree on anything. We talked with a counselor and she suggested a trial separation along with my best friend(or what I thougt was my best friend)After 3 days of separtion.Husband comes and ask if I want a Divorce – H no is what I said, but he said he felt it best we get one.I was hard headed and told him to knock his self out.He did. My grandma calls Dec 2002 and tells me it’s final she read it in the paper.Since then we are both involved with other people. My husband however is my true love, and I believe I may be his.The past year he has tried avoiding me at all cost, but our children keep telling me he’s not happy as well as his friends. help!

She is not my best friend, but we used to hang out when we were younger but we have gotten closer recently because her best friend just died last month. She gets teased in school, and her parents can’t afford therapy. Is there anyway she could acquire (free) guidance counseling at my school, but confidentially?

I think i am in love with one of my best friends, Jason. [[ he's a guy im a girl. obviously]] but its really complicated. He dated one of my good friends last year, but they had a nasty breakup that ended up in a fight between my two friends Jaylan [[the one who broke up with him]] and Ella. About a year later they made up but Ella now had a crush on Jason. And through this entire thing, i never told anyone that i thought i loved him becuase he was my best friend and i didn’t want to lose him and i didn’t want to not be friends with ella and jaylan. but then ella stopped liking him he became available. but, of fourse, we get in a fight and now its kinda awkward between us and i don’t know how to tell him i think i love him or what to do.
please help. i really need advice.

*there is a possibilty he likes me. his best friends says so.

Ok, my neigbor and me were dating for 4 to 5 months until we broke up, but during these months I fell in love with her. Now, for the past couple of months we’ve been doing the same stuff we were doing. (bf-gf stuff) I feel as if she’s using me as a friend with benifits. She can’t date me she tells me. I can’t help loving her and I just can’t stay away from her.
I need some advice!
I’ve tried everything to get her outta my head.

Two weeks ago her best friend moved. She was devistated. She told me she relized she really, really liked him. I was there for all the crying… He moved back Sunday night and now she’s all over him. (and they’re about to date) Lastnight, we kissed and I don’t know what to do.

- Hopeless Love

Me and My best friend have been trying to start a webcam chat from the online chat.

Me and my best friend want to do something special with our boyfriends on Valentine’s Day. We just don’t know what to do. Do you have any ideas? We’re only 16 and haven’t been dating them very long. We want it to be romantic but at the same time fun and outgoing. The boys can drive but we don’t want anything really expensive. Just time with our boys. But how do we spend that time? Ideas please.

My best friend who I’ve known for almost 5 years now took up drinking really fast. Her family has a history for becoming alcoholics, and she said that she thinks that she’s becoming addicted. She wants to stop, but she says she IS addicted. This year was a very hard year for her because three of her friends died, she had to move, and her parents went through a divorce. She is 16. I’ll do anything to help her quit. She’s very independent, and I doubt she’ll be interested in any kind of support group.

What can I do as a friend to help her quit? I’ve already said that she could hurt herself or that she could do something she’ll regret while under the influence. I even told her that I was losing respect for her, and still she can’t just quit.

I really need help on this one, guys.
Thank you so much in advance.

Haeee umm… Anyone have any good love advice? Cause recently i’ve fallen for my korean best friend which is also a girl.. I really like her so i dont want any comments on here telling me to give up on her cause i’ve tried nd i just fell for her again bcuz of the little things she does for me D: they’re really sweet what she’ll do for me(: anyways is anyone willing to be my LOVE DOCTOR through email?

There’s a guy I like but I’ve noticed he and his best friend touch each other a lot. Like hugs, resting heads on shoulders and hair ruffling. Also they sign off their messages with ‘X’. He doesn’t act at all gay and has had girlfriends. Is it normal? Do you know any guys who do that sort of thing? Thanks