Her boyfriend is nice, but I think he is too nerdy for her, and I am also tired of him always being the third wheel between me and my best friend. Do you guys have any ideas on how to break them up? She says she really loves him, but she’ll eventually get over the break up.

I bought some Valentine’s Grams which are little notes that get sent to the person you want them sent with candy or a rose. I’m trying to decide how to write a note to my best friend who is really close to me. This valentine’s Day will be the one year mark of us becoming best friends and i don’t know what to say on it.

i’m not sure what to do i need help and advice!

me and my husband are young only 19 we got married when we were 18 and i got pregnant the month after with our daughter.we were both really happy even thought we weren’t really trying.but he liked to drink occasionally 2 or 3 times a month.then when his best friend turned 21 it got to be 4 or 5 time a week and he started smoking again.we talked and he said he just wanted to get it out of his system before the baby was born and then he’d only do it on rare occasions. well our baby is now 10 weeks old and he’s going out partying till 1 2 3 o’clock in the morning because when he says he’ll be home at 12 it’s like ok you really mean a few hours later.also when he is home all he talks about are his plans to go out or his computer game if he’s not playing it. im hurt and ive told him but he hasn’t changed he’s tried but not really hard.and i’ve lost all trust in him and that hurts him but i can’t help it.i know he’s not cheating on me but there’s still that fear, especially when at 2 in the morning he says it’s just all guys chilling and the next thing i hear is a girl in the background!although hes said its just a guys girlfriend sorry i didn’t even think about her.i’ve had enough i love him but none of this is fare to me or our baby!we agreed to try a trial separation two days ago and are trying to work out the details, but i just don’t know if i can do it.my parents are willing to take me in until i can get on my feet with the baby but they don’t think we should try a separation they say we should get a devoice because in the long run it’d be better.but i love him so much it hurts!i just don’t know what to do…please help
I’d just like to say i am a good mom i do everything i can for my child she has never gone without and she never will!

i come from a very grounded family and faith in God, i just happen to be struggling right now.struggling does not make me a bad parent, for you who have had negative things to say!and for the rest thank you!

My best friend and I were debating this issue.. She says that it’s no problem, sign the prenup… you should be self sufficient anyway in case you divorce so you wont have to depend on him. While i agree with her, I feel that thats a sure sign that your man is expecting the marriage to fail, almost like an omen… what do you guys think?

Me and my husband have been married since December 2010, together for about two years. We have a son together and I am pregnant with our second child.

There is a lot to how he got addicted and how it has affected him now.
His parents split up because his dad was addicted to porn and how he was very lazy. In my husband’s teenage years he lived with his dad and basically all he had was a computer and a dog as his best friend. To keep himself occupied he used the computer all the time. That is when he started to become reliant on porn to help occupy his time.
There is more to it than that but that is basically what started his addiction.

I found out after we got married that he watches porn very often, I admit I over reacted at first. I talked to him and explained my thoughts on porn in marriage. He said he would stop but that was a lie. He constantly lied to me about it and continued to look at it.
He did start to realize how much he ruined my trust and how I was beginning to feel about him. He realized if this continued then it would ruin our marriage. That is when he started to work on actually stopping. He has been a lot more open with me about it things and I know there is basically no way he has looked at porn in the past few months. His phone that he used to use is broken and the only computer we have is my laptop and I know he has not used that.
We had a talk yesterday about a lot and he admitted that he still has "cravings" for porn and it has been getting to a point where he almost can’t stand it. And basically if he had a chance he would probably end up giving in. He also has admitted that he is addicted and can not get rid of the want for it.
I realize porn is not always that bad but I still have my views on it in marriage. And the fact he is reliant on it does not help.
I want to be with him, I don’t want all of this to ruin our marriage. And I know he wants to be with me, he wants to get past this it is just hard for him. If things continue to be how it has been then I am afraid it will end up tearing us apart. I love him very much but this side of him I do not like.

Does anyone know any thing that could help him and help us get through this?
I want advice, not anything negative please.
I am actually wanting to help fix problems in my marriage, so if you have something negative to say please don’t say anything at all.
I plan on sticking by him and being there for him. I have told him that he has to want to. I honestly do think he needs to talk to someone, he just has to get to the point where he is okay talking to someone.

I am a 14 year old girl. An I have a best friend who is also 14 and a girl.
We got blamed for something we didn’t do now her foster mum wants to put a restraining order against me for my best friend even though my best friend doesn’t want a restraining order against me for herself.
Can she do that?
And if so what happens if we break it?

I can’t believe it, but I’m seriously considering walking away from my marriage of 27 years. I love my husband dearly, but he has hurt me so bad and I just can’t quite get over the pain. We’ve been together since middle school. He’s (or at least was) my best friend. Our marriage was almost perfect except for the fact that we couldn’t have children. My husband was told by 3 specialists many years ago that the chances of him having a biological child were impossible. We tried everything under the sun including adoption, but nothing worked. Every opportunity smashed, every door slammed in our faces. 7 years ago, we had a heart to heart and agreed that we loved each other and that if we had to live our lives without children, it would be okay as long as we had each other. Its so weird looking back on that not knowing that even though we were suffering, it was some of the happiest times in our marriage. The hell started the April of ’09. I discovered I was pregnant. I can’t explain how happy I was. I wanted to have a baby so long and finally at 42 I was getting one. My husband was surprised but happy, or so I thought. I first noticed the distance after I had our daughter. He just wasn’t the sweet loving guy he normally was but I thought he was just trying to adjust to fatherhood. We started fighting and we pretty much never fight. He became very suspicious, looking through my phone, my mail, throwing all out fits when I went out. I couldn’t understand why it was happening. He’s always been a but jealous, but his behavior was getting out of control. I got pregnant again a couple months before our daughter’s 1st birthday. He left me after that and accused me of cheating. I mean, he left. Took all his things and filed for divorce. I felt so hurt and angry. He said he’d been suspecting me of cheating since I had first gotten pregnant. It all made since, his paranoia, the fighting, everything. I couldn’t believe after everything we’d been through he’s accuse me of cheating. I was so over all the crap he put me through and I told him if he wanted out, I wouldn’t stop him. We have 2 beautiful children. This was supposed to be the highlight of our marriage and he has f*cked it all up. We don’t live together, but he does come over to see the children. I’ve already proven that both the children are his and now he wants to come back. I’m so angry at him, more angry than I’ve ever been. Why couldn’t he trust me after 27 (really 31) years? He could have at least talked to me instead of keeping it bottled up for almost 2 years. I get it, he thought he couldn’t get me pregnant so when I got pregnant he thought I was cheating, but that doesn’t make me feel better.

I don’t want to hurt him, but i don’t see him as the one for me, and dragging it along will just hurt us both more. I know he’ll always be a best friend, but nothing more.
How can i break up with him, Without him being suicidal, or even thinking about committing suicide? And it’s a long distance relationship, so i can’t exactly comfort him.

I was completely in love with this guy. I still am. He’s my best friend now, and he means the world to me.

He has chronic anxiety, panic attacks, and will possibly develop testicular cancer. He is under observation = has to go to appointments every two weeks while they wait for it to metasticize. He says he "can’t be in a romantic relationship right now."

I love this guy to death. I want to be his friend even though it’s really, really hard for me. Does anyone have advice for me?

Please help….thank you

My best friend is having marital problems and she is getting ready to do a trial separation from her husband for one week. She is wanting to leave this weekend. My husband is leaving town this weekend and he will be gone for a whole week. I haven’t offered for her to come stay with me and I have been hoping that she won’t ask. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and I have never been on my own and I was looking forward to seeing what being independent would be like. Am I just awful?
Thanks for all the sweet comments )
I don’t feel so bad now!