I’m 13 years old my dad has mentaly and physicaly abused me but he is very clever and doesnt leave evidense. My mom drinks alot and comes home drunk and i dont eat hardly at all. My bestfriend’s mom wants to help me divorce my parents. By the way my parents are divorced and i have a younger sibiling who lives with my dad but she is perfectly fine i am not. I need help please help me!

Alight guys I need to give you guys a little bit of background for you to understand the situation, but i really need some serious advice on how to deal with this.

So 3 years ago I started dating a guy I had been friends with for a little bit. after about 3 months or so of dating my mom kicked me out at 17, him and his family took me in and let me stay there. soon after that I became pregent with our daughter. we had our problems as most couples do and now 3 years later we broke up. 3 months ago he lost his job and we had to move out of our apartment and I blamed him for that because it felt like he wasn’t trying as hard as he could to provide for his family. I feel like I took out all my stress out on him. and now he’s broken up with me and says that he doesn’t even enjoy spending time with me anymore. Its only been 2 days since the breakup, and those two days a mutual friend of ours was over, we were tying to stay in the same house and I felt like my friend (who happens to be a girl) was spending alot of time and it was making me really uncomfortable. I feel like because of that I couldn’t give him the space I think he needed and now I;m scared the damage is too much. I don’t want to see my family not be together. he says he still loves me and I believe that, i still love him dearly and all i can do right now is try to give him space( the girl has left and I have removed myself and my daughter from the house) he was asking for hoping that maybe he’ll come around after some time to blow off steam. but he tells me the rs’s no hope for us. I cant tell if hes just saying that because the whole situation has upset him or ithat’sts really the truth. Itextremelyly hard for me tbelieveve someone can give up on something that admit to loving and a family. I’m just not sure how to handle the situation.

please guys i’m all ready down I don’t need anyone being rude. I know I need to move ountilll he’s ready to work on things and in time I think I will accept if he doesn’t
we moved in with a mutal friend and had been there there almost a month before this, this girl along with a few other people happened to be there when it happened. the plan was for her to stay for the weekend when she came and to hang out with all of us. however after the breakup she didnt leave his side i tried to explain him that it was just making me feel worse and I was haing a hard time dealing with it beacause of it but it just made it worse beacuse trust, and me giving him soace were basicly why we broke up.

I have already tried:

www.gay.com
&
www.guyslink.com

But it just seems that people hardly ever go onto them to check their mail. Some members of these sites have not logged on for months on end.

So could someone recommend a really good online dating service for gay men. Also I’m Irish and I need a site were there are lots of Irish guys loging in every day or at least once a week.
General note:
The reason i want to meet someone living in ireland, is because I don’t want a long distance relationship
rabble rouser, I am in fact from Dublin. Being the capital there seems to be alot of gay men on this site. I’ve checked out manhunt.com and I like it. Thanks for the info.

I have seen or hear alot of celebrity cases in which women who had nothing before the marriage end up with a chunk good of the man money or assets because he is rich or successful. For some reason even with the so called equal rights for women some people in society even judges still believe men should compensate women who they are no longer with. For most part I think if a woman leaves away then she should not be entitled to anything more than child support.

I have seen or hear alot of celebrity cases in which women who had nothing before the marriage end up with a chunk good of the man money or assets because he is rich or successful. For some reason even with the so called equal rights for women some people in society even judges still believe men should compensate women who they are no longer with. For most part I think if a woman leaves away then she should not be entitled to anything more than child support.

I have seen or hear alot of celebrity cases in which women who had nothing before the marriage end up with a chunk good of the man money or assets because he is rich or successful. For some reason even with the so called equal rights for women some people in society even judges still believe men should compensate women who they are no longer with. For most part I think if a woman leaves away then she should not be entitled to anything more than child support.

My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday… but still told me she loves me but she had been going through alot of issues finances, and not eating etc. 5 days before she was fine. She basically told me that she needs space and that she thinks that by the space she will get her i guess mushy feelings back. The relationship was great up to that point, but she has a short temper and anything gets to her. I want to wait cuz i Love her also. what should i do and if im waisitng my time waiting for the girl i love. she didnt tell me that she never wanted to see me again or anything i figure she just upset and thats all. women help me out here!!!

I understand that a nuptial protects each others assets; but why marry then if both people want to protect themselves from the other, just in case of a divorce?

Personally, if I want a prenup and so does the other, then it obviously means we both know something WILL go wrong. So why marry?

Most married couples do have prenups. What does that tell you about the mindset of these marriages out there?

It’s so contradicting to take a Vow for Life, yet sign a prenup!

SO MANY PUBLIC FIGURES DO IT. WHAT KIND OF EXAMPLE ARE THEY SHOWING TO THE PUBLIC?
I’m going to have a prenup, no matter how in love I am! My parents divorced, but when they first took those vows; they were MAAADLY in love. Really would not like to say, why they divorced.
hotdogse: I hope your not staying with her because your afraid of losing a lot of assets. It’s only been 3 years, and you will lose something, but If you wait longer, she could get even more than you imagined.
Yes, I do agree the prenup overshadows the vows of I Do, "for richer for poorer till death do you part".
This prenup, I conclude is like having a 3rd party in the marriage. "The medium, between the two". IT is always there to protect yourselves from the one you vow to love for ever, and prepares you for just in case it’s not forever?!
I agree to them for both parties, and it just leaves me with a big headache.

If the "richer for poorer " is taken out of the vows, it would make it quite clearer where both parties stand.

But this still leaves some room for contradiction, to the whole idea of the moral standards in one’s marriage today, that have prenups.

Bottomline, you got married to your prenup first, before you made the vows to the one you want to love forever. There’s still a reason for debating this. Talk to your lawyer first, before you talk to the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?!

This sais alot about the institution of marriage.

michelle

I have a project to do and I have to get alot of information thing is I cant find information about the prons and cons about BEING a marriage counselor. Could someone come up with some for me? Thanks.

When we argue he can’t control screaming even in front of the kids.I don’t yell back I tell him the kids are there but he doesn’t stop. He has told me another guy would just want me for sex. He tells me to move out that he has no more use for me here except he would miss his kids. He tells me I am nuts,crazy for my feelings or lack of them. He also forces me to kiss him and sometimes grabs me in places I do not want to be touched.One time the kids were right in the room. I know some people will say I shouldn’t complain because he doesn’t beat me physically or cheat on me but I have felt lonely and empty inside for years. I want to move back to my hometown and try a trial separation.We live in an isolated area He gets mad says how can I divorce him he is not that bad and tells me he still loves me.After years of no affection except when he wanted sex I have completely lost my love for him. We dated 6 years and married for 8. Does anyone else feel this way?Would marriage counselling help
I have other questions posted and most people tell me to work it out but I feel like crying all the time. Thanks for telling me I am not wrong. I went from living at home to married to him so I guess I am just afraid to be on my own with two kids. Plus he makes me feel guilty for wanting to take his kids away so that he wouldn’t be able to see them everyday. Also my hometown is only an hour away so he could still see them alot.
When I said some people will tell me not to complain it was because one person answered one my questions by saying look at all the husbands who cheat or beat up there wives you will decide yours is an angel.That has always been on my mind that I worry about being alone or finding someone worse.I always say he has an inferiority complex but also is arrogant and thinks he is better.I know that doesn’t make sense but that is how he acts.He thinks I am writing on here trying to find more reasons to hate him.By the way I met him when he was 21 and he was still a virgin and at first I thought he was the sweetest but when I look back to our dating years I should of seen the signs.He was in college and so alot of the time it was long distance.He wouldn’t call me for 3 wks I tried to break up to date someone else We were only early 20′s and he made me afraid to be alone saying he might not wait.Said he loved me after only 1 or 2weeks.I had just brokeup with someone didn’t want so serious