Hello all, okay I need help. I have been dating this amazing guy named Cody for eight months.I love him allot and I wanted to marry him. We were talking about it and out of no where he asks me if I would sign a prenup. Now I didn’t think he had anything that would be worth anything. He said that he was a very (unsuccessful) inventor. But then he says that he didn’t say how much money he had because he didn’t want me thinking about money being a factor if he asked me to marry him. I just don’t know what to say to him. I feel overwhelmed. He lied to me! I asked him what else he lied about and if he is actually a inventor like he said. He told me that he doesn’t live in the apartment that I have been living with him for 5 months now. He actually rented the place once we started seriously dating. And that he is a inventor but not as unsuccessful as he had told me. I asked him, how much money do you really have? I wont say how much he said but, OH MY GOD ALLOT. More than a sane person could spend in like ten life times. After a long silence I sad okay, what did you "INVENT" that made you that much money? And he said he cant tell me because the people that bought the the idea was the military and they stipulated that he is to not talk about it to anyone, as part of a contract or something. He said he loves me with all that he is, but he isn’t stupid ether. that people change over time and and if something should happen that I would be more than comfortable for the rest of my days and its a way for us both to be safe. I know he isn’t lying about the money because he showed me his accounts and his house. I mean I’m in my parents house now and this place is big (2500 sq ft) big. but you could fit like five of them IN his house. I just don’t know what to do. I’m confused and rely emotional right now. I’m staying here right now because I just don’t know whats going on. What do i do? What do i say? What am i supposed to think!?! Just please help me..

Asked a question earlier on sim. topic. My husband is Korean who came to the U.S for me 5 months ago. He’s having adjust problems big time. 4 days ago he got mad at me because I was late meeting him somewhere. Since then he has not spoken to me. He resorted to throwing out all our condoms, blocking bedroom door, so I can’t get in, and now he’s getting drunk. I can’t take his crap. I step on eggshells and talk to him calmly but he just glares at me and won’t speak.
Now I know what it feels like to have culture shock. I lived in Korea for 3 year and had bad days to. But I never treated my husband the way he’s treating me. If he keeps it up any longer, I want him to go back. I try everything to make his stay here good. Enroll him in English and gym classes. He doesn’t work; I’m sole provider (even in Korea, he didn’t work. I did). Should I send him back and do a trial separation? He told me he wants to go back. We’ve been married just a year and have no kids. Get out now?
Also we haven’t even slept in the same bed for 4 days. I also don’t want to go back to Korea. I think its only fair he gives the U.S a chance, since I stood in Korea so long for him. I am starting to realize I screwed up getting married

My fiance` and I have been engaged for about 5 months, we both came out of pretty bad relationships before we met, so needless to say there are some trust issues in our relationship. We have tried to get past them on our own it just doesn’t seem to be working. My fiance` suggested that maybe he needs to talk to someone to get the stuff in his head straightened out, and I though that it wouldn’t be a bad idea for me to as well, and then we were going to do it together. I am all for doing whatever it takes to make our relationship stronger but I have gotten mixed feelings on the subject. Some people think it’s great and others think that after it’s all said and done, the relationship could be over. Any advice would be great.

I found out about 5 months ago that my husband had cheated on me 3 times before we were married, once while we were married and once during a trial separation… we are trying to make it work… we have a 7 week old son and i can sort of forgive him because we’re only 19 and i had cheated on my last boyfriend (that’s how i learned that cheating is as bad as people say) but i still become angry with him over it every day… will it get any easier to be with him?

*** oh and I learned of his escapades because he told me about it in an attempt to save our marriage
please no "once a cheater always a cheater" comments…

My date-sort of B/F of 5 months recently admitted to me that he hasn’t had a healthy, real committed relationship for almost 10 yrs and think he may need therapy. We’ve had a pretty up-down relationship so far, but every time it seems like we are getting closer, he freaks out. Yet we always get back together.

The good news is that – he tells me that he really likes me (and my friends see it too) by the way he looks at me, holds me and treats me when we’re together, but when we’re away.. he is all distant. He even had suggested a while ago for me to move in with him, yet he freaked out in another time when it got more serious. So I have totally squashed any notion of dating exclusively or moving in together for now.

It sounds like he is becoming aware that he has a commitment problem – but what should we go from here? He has even admitted to saying maybe he should go into counseling or see a therapist. What can I do so he won’t freak out and help him – while also keeping my own feelings protected?

Thanks.

My date-sort of B/F of 5 months recently admitted to me that he hasn’t had a healthy, real committed relationship for almost 10 yrs and think he may need therapy. We’ve had a pretty up-down relationship so far, but every time it seems like we are getting closer, he freaks out. Yet we always get back together.

The good news is that – he tells me that he really likes me (and my friends see it too) by the way he looks at me, holds me and treats me when we’re together, but when we’re away.. he is all distant. He even had suggested a while ago for me to move in with him, yet he freaked out in another time when it got more serious. So I have totally squashed any notion of dating exclusively or moving in together for now.

It sounds like he is becoming aware that he has a commitment problem – but what should we go from here? He has even admitted to saying maybe he should go into counseling or see a therapist. What can I do so he won’t freak out and help him – while also keeping my own feelings protected?

Thanks.

Ok, my neigbor and me were dating for 4 to 5 months until we broke up, but during these months I fell in love with her. Now, for the past couple of months we’ve been doing the same stuff we were doing. (bf-gf stuff) I feel as if she’s using me as a friend with benifits. She can’t date me she tells me. I can’t help loving her and I just can’t stay away from her.
I need some advice!
I’ve tried everything to get her outta my head.

Two weeks ago her best friend moved. She was devistated. She told me she relized she really, really liked him. I was there for all the crying… He moved back Sunday night and now she’s all over him. (and they’re about to date) Lastnight, we kissed and I don’t know what to do.

- Hopeless Love

I just broke up with my bf of 5 months. I really liked him. how do i deal with it?

If you and your boyfriend (or girlfriend) broke up on what were not amicable terms (I was pissed because he broke up with me on AIM) and he says "I’ll still be here if you need me," but you decide we’re broken up and I cannot have to need someone more than they need me. But he decides about 5 months later to send me an e-mail saying how much he hated our relationship after about 5 months, and we went out for 11 months. So you respond and he sends you another crappy e-mail, telling you about crap that you never even knew about, and then says that he never wants to talk to you again and that you should never contact him again. Then a month after that he says "I forgive you, I have no more hate for you in my heart." Should I even dignify him with a response.

I am the sole owner of the house me and my wife own. We are getting a dissolution and there is no equity in the house. I understand the legal laws for Ohio regarding splitting of equitable asset in half. My question is my (wife) wants 33% of the equity earned if I sell the house within one year of the judgement ending. Is she entitled to any equity once the dissolution / divorce is over and also if I dont agree to this proposal whats the chances the court would uphold this request. Also let me point out that she walk out for 5 months before asking for the dissolution and has already moved all the individual and marital assets aggred on out of the house.