My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We have lived together for about 15 months. In the past 6 months his mood swings have become unbearable. If we start arguing about something small he blows up in a rage and starts throwing things, breaking things, calling me names and pushing me around. I am constantly walking on eggshells for fear that I am going to say something to "set him off". Some of our arguments are over my cat who he then winds up picking up and throwing him out of the house. I am afraid that he will seriously hurt him someday. He has thrown my stuff out of the house three times in the last six months, twice in the last 3 weeks. We are scheduled to start couples counseling on Monday but I just don’t know if it’s going to do any good. One second he is an incredibly loving man and the next he is a tyrant. There are times where I get the cold shoulder for several days at a time. I just don’t understand what’s happening.
Thanks everyone for your help. I am currently staying with my sister and am not going back until I see how his attitude is with the therapist on Monday night. If he really makes an effort than I am willing to work on this, if he doesn’t want to try than I am gone!

I am going to mediation with my x on Wedensday and i was just wondering if anyone can give me some pointers on the best way to act to get what i want? I want supervised visitations and parenting classes our child is 15 months old and he donesn’t know her at all…. plus i would like some pointers on how to hadle it in there he is going to try to point the finger at me …what is the best way to deal with that?

1. He was served a PFA for abuse to me a year ago. He was evicted one year which ends about now.
2. Prior to the PFA, he lived in the house even though he was served divorce papers 4 months earlier. Said he wasn’t leaving.
3. We have 3 wonderful children. 1 has MR and autism, the other autism, and the other is typical who he has said very very bad untrue things about me to.
4. B/c of the special needs situation and them needing to remain in the district, he agreed to 60% of house equity 6 months ago. Since then he was stalling and recently the value dropped and now he wants 50% based on new value. The value dropped about 30,000 due to the market.
5. He says no pension, no new car. no sharing in dr appts, and now he wants to have visitation at the house. Wants 00 for furniture that didn’t even cost that much new 15 yrs ago yet he refuses to take it. He says if I don’t do what he says (thru my lawyer), he will move in to the house. The utilities are in my name and he does nothing and I get 50 a month toward the mortgage from him.
6. Judge sick of seeing him. He was in violation of the pfa. Says we need to agree but he makes unrealistic terms. He gets letters and ignores them and keeps stalling and makes unrealistic terms. It has been over 15 months….how long can he drag this on. State of PA?

If he moves in my kids lose health care and daycare.

About 15 months ago My husband was arrested for being abusive and was remove from the home. We have been married for 25 years. Have 2 minor children. He is currently unemployed and I am planning to do a pro se divorce. In florida do I have to pay for alimony if my husband was abusive?

Hi there,…can anyone help me with the divorce law in MA…I hired someone who help for this but first time he told me that would take 6-8 months,to finish my paper.and he ask me paid 800 usd for that .after 8 weeks…I thought every thing is ready,..but until now I waited for 15 months nothing done yet…he he a cheater…now I am still married but I really do not want to …I want to divorce a long tim a go….he keep telling me waiting and waiting……I do not know what I have to do…, he took my money ..and did nothing….because I do not know any one ….please help

My step children are hideously selfish and don’t listen to a thing I tell them. They won’t even bathe! They’re 14(boy) and 11(girl). My husband has a passive parenting style. He hates to hear any fussing or fighting and likes to avoid confrontations. He knows that they treat me bad, but he says he doesn’t understand why he lets them do it. He says he just doesn’t know how to make them do the right thing. He’s tried punishment, rewards, and a combination of both. Nothing seems to work. I know that he loves me very much and it bothers him that he can’t figure out how to make the children behave and do as they’re told. He also loves his children, but they are tearing our marriage apart. Anyone have any ideas or have you ever been in this same situation??
A little more info:
We have a two year old daughter together. Mu husband just deployed to Iraq and will be gone 15 months. The mother rarely calls, lives out of state and is schizophrenic . She sees them maybe once every other year. My husband is a good man and a good father to my baby. He carries a lot of guilt about his divorce and the impact it had on his kids. I didn’t mean to make it sound like he was spinelss. I think his passiveness stems more from guilt than anything else.
We’ve been married for about 3 1/2 years.
I tried for the first two years to have some sort of relationship with the two of them. I’ve done things with them/for them, I’m the one who takes them shopping, I’m the one who buys them new clothes, I’m the one who makes their father take them to the library, the park, etc. After two years of doing for them and getting nothing (respect) in return, I stopped doing so much for them. They are just REALLY selfish children who were used to being the bosses and getting what they wanted. I’ve even suggested family counselling, but now that my husband is deployed, it’s too late for that.
Just a little nore in defense of myself: My husband is in the military and he’s not home much. The children are left in my care. I have provided them with structure and activities. It’s easy for a few to point the finger at me and say I’m the one being selfish, but if you any idea how many "talks" the kidsa and I have had about our relationship, you’d understand why, at this point, I’m pulling my hair out. I agree with some of the negative comments. You’re right, I shouldn’t let their behavior bother me, but I don’t know of any way to just "turn off" my emotions when they treat me so badly. Even their father ADMITS that they treat me badly. Again, I have suggested (on several occasions) that we seek family councelling. I work, their father is gone, and I’m taking care of all three children. Is it so much to ask, for them to just follow a few rules? I’ve compromised a lot. I stopped nagging them to bathe, brush teeth, do homework or clean up after themselves!
By the way, Skidoo, my screen name was a joke between my sister and myself. One I’ve had for years. No hidden meaning whatsoever.

And for any of you who took offense to the term "demonic step children", come on! It was a phrase to show just how frustrated I am with them! I’ve done more for those two chilldren since I’ve known them than either their real mother or their father. I’ve taught them why they shouldn’t lie or steal, how to have compassion for others, how to take care of themselves, and a lot of other real life skills they need to become productive adults. The issues they have were going on a looooong time before I was ever in the picture. I tried to give them what they needed but they rejected me, so don’t point fingers at me for getting tired of trying to help them when they don’t want or appreciate my help. Sometimes, I think the only ones who really understand are the ones who have walked in my shoes. And some called ME judgemental?