infidelity?

6 Comments

1. Sarah says:

   March 14, 2010 at 4:42 am

   You could keep quite about it and your husband/wife would not know anything about it. Then promise yourself that it will never happen again, that is if you truly love your husband/wife.

   According to the Bible, infidelity (adultery) is the only reason for divorce. Your mate will never be able to trust you and he/she could never forget the pain and hurt. God knows this that is why he said it is the only reason to divorce.

   If you think the man or woman you committed adultery with will tell you mate, then you need to confess your sin and beg forgiveness. You don’t want your mate to find out through someone else.
2. Shaney says:

   March 14, 2010 at 4:42 am

   you need to add a little more detail to your question as in what direction you need advice. You can’t change it so you have to moveon just in what direction are you wanting to go?
3. just me says:

   March 14, 2010 at 4:42 am

   Depends…If your spouse cheated on you, you need to forgive him or her. If you did the cheating you need to forgive yourself. Life does go on and you or your spouse are not the first person to do this. You keep moving forward in life together. Need more info to try to help. Good Luck.
4. lil'momma says:

   March 14, 2010 at 4:42 am

   You do what you want to do.
   If you can forgive then do that.
   It truly depends on what you can accept & live with.You have to be happy!!!
5. happygirl says:

   March 14, 2010 at 4:42 am

   No matter who cheated, if you love each other and you both want to stay together then you do your best to find out why they felt the need to go elsewhere. What made them vulnerable enough to get into that situation in the first place. For both parties it takes the desire and ability to really listen to each others wants, needs, goals and dreams.. all of them…and a willingness to be transparent and actively work every day to help each other know how to meet those needs.
   Sadly most of the time sex is not the real or only issue when it comes to infidelity. It is usually much deeper needs that are not being met such as emotional, social, intellectual, and the true intimacy that has nothing to do with the act of sex, that makes a person vulnerable.
   That said, vulnerability does not excuse infidelity so the person who did the cheating needs to be willing to be an open book and willingly give up their privacy in some instances. Passwords to any email accounts or cell phones, and letting your partner know it is ok to call you at any time and let them know were you are at all times if they need that to help them deal with it.
   The person that cheated needs to be aware their partner may need that for a long time to be able to heal and learn to trust them again.. that is a tough one but a must for the relationship to work..Absolutely no secrets.
   I wish you luck and love.
6. melsa123 says:

   March 14, 2010 at 4:42 am

   once a cheater always a cheater. id leave. i couldnt trust someone again after they cheated on me. and what will your relationship be without trust?

   others can forgive and move on like nothing happened, but personally i dont think i could ever do that because id never forget.