custody???
boyfriend and I work allways have, make ok money together about 000 a year. have health benifits live in a 3 bedrm house, only criminal records we have is his ex wife put a restraining order on him while divorce was in process said she was afraid of him when he was mad. restraining order over now. She has custody of the kids we only get them every other weekend. She does not work,( never has) her boyfriend does not work, she is on welfare and trying to get disability (lazy) they live in an apartment for now. If we faught do you think we would get custody? would it help if we were married?
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Well it always help if you are married or enganged u know proof of serius commintment…now the other thing is when u go to court make srue taht you also have some kind of daycare figureed out when u both are at work..just in case cuase they might look at it like u both work full time what are you going to do with the child..u never know it might come up..make sure taht you have proof of the monies that u both make and all that stuff..and keep your cool get a good lawyer and chances are you will get custody..not sure about full custody becuase thats pretty hard to do…but if she’s on welfare and her bf is not working and u both are then there might be a good chance that u will get custody of some kind so taht u are not only getting them every two weeks..i know that can be hard not only on u but the kids as well..i know i went threw the same thing..but i just brought up all the good facts to the mom and she gave me and my bf (her dad) custody, and we didn’t have to go court….i told her pretty much the same thing that i told you , but the one that u are dealing with seems like a B I T C H., so alli can say is go talk to a lawyer they will give you a sit down and explain the pro’s and con’s and what to do and what not to do in court..
GOOD LUCK
Living together in an adulterous relationship would make you and unfit mother.
you should get at the very least shared. I’d try to modify your existing order. Know that she’ll try to use the restraining order and probably make other things up. DOn’t worry, judges aren’t stupid. present the facts that you can provide a better life. since the child’s been living with the mom, they most likely won’t take the child away unless you can use her disability (legitimately) and say that because of it she is unfit. What you want to do is seek full custody. but expect shared…meaning, you’ll get the child half the time, she’ll get the child half the time… and YES, it always helps when there is a commitment, i.e. marriage, engagement, etc……
Marriage would help, you may get at least more visitation, but lazy does not coonstitute poor mothering skills.
Good Luck
as a stepmother AND a mother- let me tell you this…
This is HIS job to research and find information out about- it’s not the stepmother’s place to call any mother lazy. I despise my stepdaughter’s mother- but anything regarding my stepdaughter is between her and my husband.
Let him talk to a lawyer and do the research. You worry about yourself.
Don’t try to use this as an excuse to get him to marry you, either, if that’s where this is heading.
Also, trying to get on disability is not lazy- if she’s even got a claim to submit, chances are she’s got a good reason to be filing. If she’s on welfare, it’s because she is struggling- that doesn’t make her a bad person.
Perhaps she should take your boyfriend back to court for more child support???
yes you guys can get them and no you don’t have to get married.all he has to do is prove to the judge that he is more stable and financially secure.i have three different baby mothers and i got custody of two.all i did was present my case to the judge and said why i believe my children should be under my care. and there should be more muter women like you that no matter what you have your man back.you love your man so much that you would marry him so his kids can be in a better inviorment.god blessed him with a angel.good luck!
yes you would have to be married …But if the children are not being abused leave them alone…No children need to be taken from their mother unless abuse is going own…She is their mother just like he is the father….When these children get of age to say who they want to live with then so be it but don’t cause chaos if not needed too…
marrige will deffently be aplus your have a damm good chance of getting coustody. Please get the kids out of there if it is a bad situation.
Unless you are already planning to get married-don’t do anything drastic until you consult an attorney. Even if you get married, unless she is an unfit mother by abuse or neglect of the kids it is very hard for a man to get full custody. But, you won’t even get shared parenting unless you are married. Living together doesn’t look good in the courts eyes.
Wow sounds like the same situation I was in. I am the stepmom and we had a long 3 year nasty fight. But August of this year we got custody of my husands little girl. Alot depends on the state that you are in and the laws in it. If you would like you can email me and I would be glad to talk to you further about it.