One of my friends is from India, and she recently told me that her parents are forcing her into an arranged marriage. The guy she’s engaged to is her 2nd cousin and he’s 30 (she’s 17). Her family is really excited but she told me she’s scared. I don’t know how to help and she doesn’t want to disappoint her family. Please help!!!!

So my husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 5. Over the years, there has been a lot of emotional abuse from my husband…in the form of yelling at me (and just yelling in general), ignoring me, not showing affection, criticizing my looks, etc. I don’t claim to be perfect…I have a demanding job and he thinks I spend too much time working, but I’m also the only one with an income right now and I can’t help that my job is demanding. I can’t just say no to my bosses. Anyway, last week I told my husband that I want a divorce. He did a complete 180 turn and says he’ll do anything to keep me, he’s apologized, sobbed (which I don’t like to see at all), and begged me to stay with him. He says he’s wiling to do marriage counseling, which he refused to do when I suggested it previously. I don’t even feel that I have the energy/desire to do marriage counseling. I just feel numb toward him, no attraction whatsoever. We were separated for a week and I never missed him…actually, I was relieved that he wasn’t around. It was nice being alone. This is also complicated by the fact that I met someone online who showers me with attention and compliments (we’ve never met in person, and I realize that he might not be right for me either), which has helped me feel so much better about myself, as my self-esteem was very low. Anyway, I’m wondering if I should even bother with marriage counseling….can counseling help restore my feelings for my husband? Or is that just gone forever? Here is a question that I asked earlier that provides more detail on our issues. Thank you.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjX4_MVJgCiu5p4ZclknZQsH53NG;_ylv=3?qid=20101225162748AAR3F73

Btw, I know this is going to sound really bad, but….with him sobbing and apologizing and being overly nice, he actually seems even less attractive to me. I know that doesn’t make sense, but I feel almost like he’s trying to manipulate me into staying with him or that he’s being so nice only because I threatened to leave (which is obviously true). I feel like, "If you could be this way, why didn’t you act like this before when I told you it was a problem?"

My wife has been diagnosed with ruptured discs, and degenerative disc disease, she just turned 30, and I would say 25 days out of 30 she is generally in a lot and I mean alot of pain. Because the pain is chronic, not much they can do, so the doctors are medicating the problem. Between the pain and the pills, our love life is non existent, Here is my question, does any one know of any less stessful "positions". She is associating sex with her back pain, and she pretty much no longer wants to have anything to do with it. I completely understand, I just would like to tell her that there are ways that we can do this where we can limit the pain. any info will help…..

vr friendly 4 the past 10 yeras n r planning to get married this year .but my fiance is a hindu n im a catholic ,my mom agreed to our marriage only coz i assured her that v will get married in the church too .i dont want my fiance to change his religion as a girl is supposed to change hers after marriage ,but v both respect each others religion ….n v want to keep both the flys happy by getting married both the ways in church as well as in the temple ….but i recently found out that if v wantto marry in the church v will have to give in writing that after marriage our kids will follow christianity ,is this right what the church is doing ,coz indirectly they r forcing the people to follow christianity ..does anyone has an idea as to what i can do so that there will b no probs later on ….as v both want our kids to b hindus later ,well it depends on them completely if they want to follow christianity later in their life ,n my fiance too has no objections to this …can anyone help me

I am waiting til marriage to have sex. I have read that lots of women can’t reach orgasms during sex. Do you thing that masturbating as a teen will help me enjoy sex later, or will I be too used to doing it myself for my husband to be able to do it for me?

My husband says i have problem using using paying pain pills and xanex and i cannot denie that i do , but the thinkg is by right he does not trust me and i undertand that. I am willing to fix to my problem going through rehab or ahtever it takes. But he also likes to drink alot as we speak we is around the corner at a friends house watching the game and hanging out with the guys drinking. On christmas eve we had 2 parties to attend he opened his first beer at 9:30 am and continue to drink beer the rest of the day with being said as we went on to his family side of the party as the evening gets later he comes out and say "shit beer is cutting it anymore lets get the wishkyand geta stiffera drink i need lots of advice can yall please help without judging we all have faults yet we have 2 boys 11 and 8 what can i do i dont want to be sperated from the children and i am tring to make him understand if i go through this treatment what is he gonna do to make it better when i am done. please

im 16 almost 17, and as most guys my age, i am girl crazy. i dont go 5sec without thinking about sex, so how the heck am i supposed to live like this and resist for like 5-10 years!? im catholic and i 100% support waiting till marriage to have sex, but i fear that if some girl wanted to do it with me, that i would give in. what can i do, if anything?

Shona

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I am at a loss, really i don’t know where to start, My husband and i have been together for 10 years, married for 3. we have 4 kids together, i am 27 and he is 38. My first thought before kids was this is never going to work because of the age difference, at first it was just fun and spontaneous and it really didn’t mean anything to me, but..he was the cool older guy upstairs with the motorcycle and i was the hard to get, cute, flirtatious teenage girl next door.. Well somehow things went from "Spontaneous" to "Serious". I was stupid and naive and didn’t care about birth control it was one of those situations you see on TV where the little girls want to have babies just to have someone to love them. that was me. well my wish came true and i got pregnant with my first daughter at 19. had her right after i turned 20.. at that point we were living together and things seemed OK, He worked hard to provide for us and i was a stay at home mom. we decided to move out of state because where we were living it was really hard to afford and we wanted the best for our family. So we moved 2000 miles away from the home I’ve know my entire life. shortly after the move i became pregnant with my 2nd child and then when she was 7 months i became pregnant with my third, both of which were not planned and were actually BC babies..
here we are 6 years and one more baby later (if you lost count that’s 4) and i feel completely lost..
I am so different from that girl i once was, I’ve changed for the better i think, yet he is exactly the same and doesn’t seem like he has grown at all, it’s sad really..he’s bitter most the time and hates his job and makes sure i know that everyday..yet he wont do anything to try and change it.
he uses addictions to keep him happy which i think is really sad.
with out them he turns bitter and mean.
I do everything i can to make sure my kids are happy and i want the world for them,
i feel he is in the way of that.
i don’t know what to do..
I LOVE him so much but i think that i simply LOVE him but I’m not IN LOVE with him anymore and honestly I’m not sure if i ever was. the only thing that makes me think i was is that i feel i would be miserable without him, and I’m not sure if that would be me missing my best friend or me missing my lover..
If only he would change and become the father i want for my children and the one that they need.
I am not even a little bit physically attracted to him anymore not sure i ever was..and the thought of sex with him makes me want to puke. I know this is making me sound like a horrible person but i need help i don’t just want to give up on 10 years. i want to make it better anyway i can. but then again I’ve tried so many times before and it has never worked more than a couple months at the most and that is with me making all the changes..
I need suggestions on helping him become the person he needs to be in order to be an asset to this family.
Please if anyone can help me it would be great.
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