I filed divorce papers bout a month ago in california and am wondering is ther any kind of legal papers I can get my soon to be ex husband to sign to say I can remarry now. My dad got my mom to sign a paper to allow him to remarry before there divorce was final and he did, this was in Montane

Twice in the last two days I have seen questions about getting restraining orders revoked. What is a valid reason for wanting on revoked? If that person doesn’t want to be by you that much, why try to fight an order?

My wife and I just recently agreed upon a trial separation. I could go into a lot of detail about it but i’ll just ask my question. She is the one who wanted to separate because she says she wasn’t happy with the way I treated her and my son. I don’t hit her, demean her, drink too much, stay out too late, and never cheat on her. It’s just some little issues that I think could had been worked out by trying but she said she has been unhappy for a long time with me. She never let me know this so I could try and fix it. I thought she was always happy. Anyways she has moved out and she told me she wasn’t in love with me anymore. She also told me that she woke up one morning and just felt like she would be happier on her own with her and just the baby. I ask her if she thinks the separation will help. And she says she doesn’t know and I have also asked her if she wants to get a divorce and she says no. She moved back home with her parents and took the child. She is trying to make a living back at home living with her parents so she can get her own place and just raise our son on her own. I help her out with child support since she is not in the same state anymore. I want us to work out especially for our child but just the same I want us to work out because I think we still have something together even though she does not see it.

My questions are:
1. How am I to know what she wants?
2. How long should I wait before moving on?
3. What are some questions I should ask her to see if she does want to get back besides the regular "will we ever get back together?"
4. We have been separated for about a month now. What should my next step be in my situation.

Thanks for the help.

My Dad is getting a divorce from my step mom and is going to move closer to me and my mom and due to his mental health I want a restraining order so he can’t be anywhere near our street. How far can a restraining order be?

For over a week my wife has been acting distant and disinterested in me.

She blames: work pressure, pressure about leaving China and coming to Australia to settle, leaving the company with a really good impression in case she has to return to China (yeah I hate how these people like to leave options open too), pressure about the failing health of her family, boredom with me.

I’m crushed. She just won’t let something go that happened to us a while ago (before marriage). Where I became good friends with a girl and packed up my things and left for 24 hours (because I was so upset with something that happened). I came back the next day and it did hurt us both. I never did anything with this girl but my wife was so upset at the time about me lining up another girl and trying to move on. I did that out of anger because she was getting more and more abusive to me and ran out until 2am to KTV with a bunch of blokes.

Anyway, we got on with it and I came back. We tried to work through it and get over it. BUT she hasn’t been the same since. She told me she still loves me so much and has shown that through small affectionate signs but the sex and bedroom intimacy has completely gone. The past 4 nights have gone something like this: I’ll try to kiss her and initiate, she’ll just roll over and ignore me or lie there like a doll. I’ll then give up in tears and leave the room and break down.

The night before last, she apologized for not being able to give me sex. Said I’m still young and she understands. I’m not trying to put demands on her… Last night she saw that I was horny and was playfully me touching me and then when I wanted more, she rolled over said she was tired and went to sleep. She has changed into something like a manipulative woman that’s just playing around and no longer serious to me. Now I feel like I am banging my head on a wall. We just got married and now she is doing this and treating us like a joke. No wonder I want to weigh up options and think about getting out.

I’m at wits end. She says she loves me so much and to not get upset and things will be fine – she’s just worried about her work and has big pressure.

She hates it that I have a mate who is a player. I don’t go out with this guy but rarely invite him around for drinks at my house. I’ve told him I’m married and not into playing around but since the incident with that girl, my wife has become so distrusting that when I made a comment about her going overseas for her work and having 2 weekends without her, she shot back ‘so you can go and f**** other girls then’. After that I said to myself that this girl doesn’t just have problems with what happened, but I seriously doubt she loves me.

So, I’m weighing options. We only have 3 months to go before we go back to Australia together.

1. Stay here and keep working and earning money until it’s time to go. I’ll see her on and off and be her support. Be there in case she is in the mood to be intimate. Her support but also in some ways her toy.

2. Go back to Australia before her. Problem here is that I won’t be earning any money during the time before out planned wedding in December. It will take some time to find a job. <– this option might be a good idea as a trial separation. Yep, I’m thinking along the lines of a separation of longer than what her work normally affords. I’d still be committed to her, just I’d be getting established in Australia and have access to counseling if I decide to and time to think with the support of my family.

3. Continue to stay here. I’ve talked at length with a close family member about these things and they reminded me that I can try to stick it out in China for a couple more months (even if that means us not being intimate or doing anything together – just kind of exist together without the full range of intimacy is no different to just being in another country I guess). Come back together and then see how things go without her work pressure. She might change completely. Certainly I’d have all of her attention – she won’t know anybody or anything and will have to rely upon me.

I never went with another girl. I did message that girl and consider going out with her but never did that because I needed time to process my feelings – esp. if I was going to make a permanent break. After all, we had been together for 2 years and I realized I couldn’t just throw that away. That tells you how far as I was pushed to make the decision to move out (she had messaged me earlier after leaving in anger and told me she was moving all her stuff out and leaving). Her text to me set me off and I packaged things out of anger.

She sometimes brings up the incident about the girl. Today she saw me getting so upset with her comments that she backed down and said not to worry and think so much and that the business with the girl was a small problem. That mo
I’m 28 and she’s 25. I began to wonder if it was a lack of attraction to me. Bored with me?? That’s bs. But then she turns around and talks about saving for a house and a good future. She was on the webcam laughing and talking away with her cousin’s bf last night but when it came to bed time, she hugged me, kissed my eyes (a sign of affection), started fooling around and then rolled over and went to sleep. All signs of a lack of interest in me. I am teetering on the edge of leaving.

What forms do I file to take him back to court to collect the money he owes me and has failed to pay?

Just wondering if anyone can help steer me in the right direction.

My mum has depression/anxiety. Like really big problems. Psychiatric hospitals/overdoses/police being called all of these are a regular occurence. I am 38 and have 2 children (6 & 7). She has been sick for a long time. She divorced my dad, and whilst my dad and siblings are supportive, as her daughter I wear the brunt of it. This weekend she has told me she cant cope with being a mother anymore and is ‘retiring’. Those words felt like a sledgehammer, but i kept it together to get thru my husbands birthday, kids sleep overs. Its Sunday night and i guess I am just feeling it now.

Are there support groups out there for me? I am having trouble ‘processing’ it all. Coping with it. I mean my day to day life will proceed, i have the kids and work etc etc, but there is a hole in my heart, a sadness that is unending. I wish I had someone who understood.

I have seen a lot of support groups (online and off) for non-custodial parents who feel they are getting ripped off by the system. Is anyone aware of support groups for custodial parents who are trying their best, but not collecting any support from the non-custodial parent to help take care of their child. I am referring to a middle-class hard working divorced custodial parent and an irresponsible, spiteful, lazy non-custodial parent who has blatantly refused to pay, but there seem to be NO CONSEQUENCES for his actions. I know that in the end he will lose, but that isn’t helping to pay for food, clothes and childcare. My thought is that I should not try to "reinvent the wheel" if someone else has figured out a good way to get the system to help them. Besides, I always thought that more could be accomplished when you have more people putting their heads together.

Thanks!
I have been working closely with the child support agency – they said that they are back-logged almost one year on reviewing criminal child support cases. He falls into that category. The only other option is to hire an attorney out of state & take him into court with no guarantee that the judge will take a hard position with him. I am trying to find a way to get what the court has ordered by working within the system – impossible to lay out a lot of money that you already don’t have with no guarantee you’ll get it back. An attorney has been involved. The support group approach is more to find out how other people may have succeeded. It’s sort of a last ditch effort…
Driver’s license suspension – no big deal to him. This has happened more times than I can count. He makes one payment, gets the license back and quits his job. If he spent as much time and effort working as he does ditching child support, he’d be very comfortable financially.

Our family has been harassed. The woman causing this is encouraging her dog to defecate on my grass, subjects my mother to verbal abuse and casts her rubbish on our land. She tells her grandchildren to play around my car and her son is verbally and physically abusive.

What evidence do I need to prosecute her for harassment and obtain a restraining order against her?

Also how long would this process take?