Two days after my husband returned home from his 1st & only tour to Kuwait he began punching me which caused me to bite his hand in self defense that led to a car chase the next day where a minor accident happened at his fault that left me being arrested no ?s asked for assault with a vehicle & domestic violence (the bite from 2nites b4) ALL because he trowed around that he just returned home from deployment.. Y in jail he broke n2 the hm & robbed me (with the key he stole from my car at the wreck while the cops let him in my car than he disappeared for 6 months took any money we had causing me to lose everything!!! During his deployment he cheated trough internet sending complete strangers (girls) thousands of dollars & sense than he has a child due in February 2011 i have graciously packed ALL of his things & had them returned to him however ive tried making contact with his unit to find him for a divorce and or help but they’ve seen nothing of him sense they returned home idk if hes awol or whatever but he seems to have all these laws protecting him yet im the one thats held responsible for everything.. Also in the middle of packing his things i find paper work stating the reason he wasnt allowed in the army branch was he had a juvenile charge at age 12/13 on 2 counts of child molestation on a 2 & 3 year old the national guard doesnt look as hard as the army so i was unaware what i was allowing in my home. Sad to say but he was accused of crossing lines by my own daughter in church she tried reporting it but to much time had passed & the touching wasnt considered savier enough with time passed (although we did remove him from our hm at that time).. We were never aware he was this person till it was to late.. im sorry this got so long & thank you for your time.. Is there any help out there the guard has none to offer & ive been everywhere & tried everything.. All i want is a divorce from him but he has made it to where i dnt have the means possible. Can i divorce him without it costing anything is there any help for me? I did tell the judge all this & showed what proof i could he ordered me to divorce him & get away from him for my own saftey & good, than he would trow it out of court however he left out how im spose to do this.. He will met me to sign papers but want help onthe cost. Again Thank You for Your Time & Help…

I want to divorce my husband of 12 years and have felt that way for quite a while. I think that "staying for the kids" is bs because I feel that if mom is not happy, the kids will not be. Is it possible for them to grow up emotionally healthy and able to have relationships that are meaningful as children of divorce? I am sure it is, but I would like to hear from some older people who have grown and now have positive relationships. What did your parents do to help you form positive, healthy bonds?

Thanks so much for your responses.
-J.J.
Edit: Thanks so much fo your responses. There are many reasons for the divorce–mainly apathy on his side when I was ill, depressed and had no support when we moved etc. He is mentally abusive to me and plays mind games quite often out of his need to be superior. There really is no chance for reconciliation here. I do not love him, but I do love my kid and want him to have a relationship with them. They need him in their lives. I am just extremely tired and ready to move on.

I know that mental abuse and apathy don’t seem as hardy resons for divorce, but when you have lived with it for years and years, one doesn’t leap at the thought of extending things.

Thanks so much for your thoughts on the matter.

My husband and I are having a difficult time in our marriage. We have pin pointed the problem, but need some help figuring out how to resolve it. We don’t get along much at all when our 3 year old son is around. While we love him more than anything, he seems to add so much stress to our marriage. The fits he throws, me telling my husband how to do things a certain way with our son and then him telling me no he wants to do it his way…etc. I also get resentful because I feel like I do so much as far as taking care of our son and the duties aren’t equal. My husband works as a police officer, so alot of the times that he is actually home he is sleeping because of his shifts, which leaves me to do everything. I know he is working and I realize I shouldn’t get mad about it, but I do. When it is just the two of us things are much calmer and we get along so well. Obviously we wouldn’t trade our son for the world, but is this a common in marriages. Please help!

Im currently in going through a child custody case. The Court has ordered that we the parents be evaluated separately then the child.

Im curious if anyone has been through this and if anyone knows what these test consists of?

I paid the lawyer 00 about 3 days ago. I gave him almost all the information. I might change my mind. Is it possible while also getting my money back? Or most my money back? Or could I even postpone the divorce?
…but what if I hold off (postpone) the divorce? How does that work? Is it costly?

and help control the population. Is infidelity in America a right of
passage? This is a question for sociology I’m not trolling.

Hello,

I am looking for a prenuptial lawyer in Wichita KS does anyone know who would be the best to go to??
And Yes pre-nups are only good for 10 yrs, but then after that you have the option of renegotiations or updating the pre-nup agreement. Since in most cases financial situations can change or there are other changes in the marriage

here’s the story a friend of mine has a child with a women who works for the family court every time he goes before the judge she works for the judge sides with her and doesn’t listen to the friends side before making unfair rulings. The friend asked the judge if him being over the case was a conflict of interest and the judge preceded to rule an outrageous amount of child support. Is this judicial misconduct? He can’t afford an attorney he barely makes child support it’s over half his paycheck. What can he do besides bend over and take it.

Lease is up June 30th and then we wont be living together any longer. He wants my daughter to live with him and me have visitation but i course i want her to stay with me. She has a routine and goes to a daycare that she loves and is doing well at. Can i file to have custody and visitation established now or do i have to wait until we are living separate?

I have a friend that married someone to help them get their residency and now they got their papers and he wants to get a divorce…how can he file?
thank you all for your answers they were all great…my friend can’t locate this person because she won’t return his calls to sign the divorce papers so what can he do if he can’t get a hold of her? does the court try to find her?